Advise for keeping NC

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Registered: 10-18-2004
Advise for keeping NC
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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 4:52pm
Hi y'all, good news. I've successfully (so far) kept NC and I have no idea how long it's been. Two weeks, three, more? Who knows. One thing that has really helped me endure is to NOT keep track of how long it's been. I was keeping track for a while and I found myself wallowing in my sorrow every time I thought about it. Once I stopped thinking about how many hours, days, weeks it's been I was really able to focus on my friends, family and my daily life in general. I know not all advice works for everyone but I just thought I'd pass that along.

Currently I recognize that I've gone through the hurt and pain, the denial, the anger (on the backside of that one still) and I look forward to the next phase, acceptance.

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 9:12pm
Hey cowgirl! I actually do agree with you about counting days. For me, I think it's psychological and a set-up for additional pressure. I'm really hard on myself as it is - if I can "punish" myself further by going back to square one, I will. I know XMM and I broke up somewhere at the end of February, don't remember the exact date, but believe it was around the 27th or 28th. I don't count days of NC, and I've never set myself up to believe that i needed to go back to day one after one of my stupid, stupid, stupid text messaging incidents. (incidentally, I've finally let go of beating myself up over that).

This is pretty consistnet in my life overall, not just with ending this A. I don't usually count the days since my last drink, but I do know my "sober" date. JMHO. Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10