The affair is over can't stop laughing!

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Registered: 10-09-2008
The affair is over can't stop laughing!
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Tue, 12-29-2009 - 11:56pm

Background story...I have been having an affair with a MM for almost 3 years. It was an on again/off again thing, my friend thought it was perhaps he was feeling guilt etc. Anyways, it pretty much ended in the summer of this year, I had eventually accepted it and was moving on very slowly. A couple of months ago, I heard threw the grapevine he had left his wife (which he swore would never happen because of the kids and I never pressured). I heard from at the beginning of the month and he told me via email he was getting a divorce but wouldn't tell me why. Stupid me allowed myself to start hoping. About a week ago, the emails started again and very quickly got hot and heavy. After about 2 days and many, many emails....he tells me he has met a wonderful woman, they are living together and he loves her very much. This supposedly happened in a matter of a couple of months...ya right!

I was devastated and very angry at the same time. Angry that he had played me for a fool with those emails. I asked him flat out what was the point of the past couple of weeks. He informs me "he didn't think it was that big of a deal." Yes, I enjoy being played like that. I walked away from the computer to calm down before I said some things I would later regret. About 4 hours later, I logged on to the computer and low and behold there is an email from him.

Apparently the genius emailed one of the very explicit email threads to his entire department at work. He had inadvertently saved it and when he attached what he thought was the proper work document...he discovered very quickly it wasn't! I don't work with them, they don't know me...but new girlfriend does and got the email! He was emailing me to tell me and begging me that if she contacts me to lie and say this happened 20 years ago! That if we want to continue the affair then I had better cover for him or she won't let him talk to me!!!!!! I can guarantee the affair WILL NOT be continuing! I should feel something but right now I just can't stop laughing!

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Sun, 01-03-2010 - 10:37pm
No, don't block him yet, I need to see if he is, in fact, a douchebag!
Onward and upward.
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Registered: 10-09-2008
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 4:00am

I apologize for not replying sooner. I had typed a reply and it got lost in never never land.

I have no idea if he lost his job. I haven't heard from him since. I did send an email today to see what had happened at the meeting but it bounced back to me. So either he has lost his job, blocked me or changed his email address. I deleted his cell number a long time ago so I can't even text him to find out. In a way it's good because I can;t contact him...but part of me does miss him. I let him get closer than any other man I have been with. It started as a purely physical affair and became emotional half way through and part of me does miss him even though he is a jerk. I think that is the hardest part, the way he ended it. He was there for some really crappy things happening, I never made demands on him so I have no idea why he felt the need to play the game he did in the end.

I have good days and not so good days. I am more lucky then most in that I have several really good friends who knew about the affair and I can turn to them for support. Eventually I will get past him, but it will be tough letting someone get that close again.

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