Affair over-making my work life hell

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Affair over-making my work life hell
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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 11:11am

An affair I had with an OM ended last May and I have been able to move on in my life. The OM has not. The big problem is that this OM is a client of the company I work for....I am still beating myself up for doing this. This OM has been very cruel since...he has pulled me off the account and told my boss that I did not do a good job, among other things. I have told my boss that is not the case and that's it's a personal issue. The OM has been spreading rumors about me. Most of my coworkers know that this man is a 'womanizer' and they don't beleive that I did not do my job. He comes into my office like he owns the place and will say hello to one of my coworkers and ignore me (I'll be standing right there).
I try my best to let it not bother me but it does and it upsets me every time he is here. What can I do? I just want him to go away but the account is important to the company I work for. This is so complicated and I have no one to talk to.

Thanks

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 11:17am

Demp

Not a lot you can do but maybe somehow the rumor could get started that he is mad because you said no to him and he is just pissed about that so he is giving you a hard time about it, and in fact if I get you your the one that ended the affair so you did say no and his EGO is hurting over being rejected a typical Narrsist reaction to being rejected by the woman.

JMHO

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 12:10pm

Demp,

I hate to say it, but it looks like it's time to update the resume. Maybe this will go away in time. Maybe not. I would try to move to another area of your company, if you can. If you can't, I'd be looking for a new job. I'm sorry you're going through this.