I am so proud of you NC. And so jealous of you all. When you guys say 'I used to count minutes, I used to count days etc'- I am soooooooooooo impressed!
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
Welcome to EAS
You should start a new thread with your story so everyone can respond
and help you. I was one of the people who originally posted to this thread - at the time I was not
quite a month out of my 7.5 year long A. I'm happy to tell you that
it's now been 5 months. Hopefully Alice will see this and respond - she
struggled a lot with anger. One of my favorite quotes I reminded her of
numerous times was "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with
the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets
burned." - Buddha
Let go of the anger Vanessa - it will do you no
good. Definitely do not write him and tell him you are angry. If you
have read through some of the threads here, you will see that we
advocate No Contact. It's the only way to get past your A. You said no
one put a gun to your head - and you are right. You have to take full
responsibility for your actions and now work toward forgiving yourself
and creating a new life for your family. I hope you continue to read and
post - you will get amazing support here.
I initially found this forum through googling 'affair timelines', in my desperation to find out how long it would take to take to get over an A and how i would go about it, which directed me to this post. I am really keen to see how long it takes to get over an affair, I know it would vary with all us,
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Hi Jane,
whole chuncks of time zoom by
New Choices, New Chapter,
New Challenges,
I am so proud of you NC. And so jealous of you all. When you guys say 'I used to count minutes, I used to count days etc'- I am soooooooooooo impressed!
It gives me so much encouragement.
WOW! THIS TOTALLY ROX!!!!
Thanks for Posting it !!!
Im Week 5 - ISH and it says NOTHING about wanting to kill him for ditching me &
Hi Vanessa -
Welcome to EAS
You should start a new thread with your story so everyone can respond
and help you. I was one of the people who originally posted to this thread - at the time I was not
quite a month out of my 7.5 year long A. I'm happy to tell you that
it's now been 5 months. Hopefully Alice will see this and respond - she
struggled a lot with anger. One of my favorite quotes I reminded her of
numerous times was "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with
the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets
burned." - Buddha
Let go of the anger Vanessa - it will do you no good. Definitely do not write him and tell him you are angry. If you have read through some of the threads here, you will see that we advocate No Contact. It's the only way to get past your A. You said no one put a gun to your head - and you are right. You have to take full responsibility for your actions and now work toward forgiving yourself and creating a new life for your family. I hope you continue to read and post - you will get amazing support here.
Bodhi
Bumping this up
Hi everyone
I initially found this forum through googling 'affair timelines', in my desperation to find out how long it would take to take to get over an A and how i would go about it, which directed me to this post. I am really keen to see how long it takes to get over an affair, I know it would vary with all us,
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