Afraid to let go...Please help

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Registered: 11-16-2010
Afraid to let go...Please help
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Tue, 11-16-2010 - 1:47pm

I have been with A for over two years, it's definitely been a roller coaster ride for both of us.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2009
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 2:35pm

Welcome Welcome Welome!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 4:21pm

Inlgirl,

It can be very, very scary to let go of something that we use to comfort us even when we know that it is bad for us. It sounds like you are ready to let go, except for those fears of hurting. Well, it does hurt and you can't get around it. But I promise you that it does get better, too!! I am five weeks NC today. I am far from being over the hurt, but I can tell you that I have more good days than bad ones now. It feels so awesome to have my life back, to not let my mood be dependent on whether I hear from him or not, to know that I quit something that was soooooo destructive to my self value.

There is a LOT of hard work ahead. I start therapy this Friday. I am scared crapless to delve into my issues, but I am also tired of living like a bi-polar

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 9:32pm

Inlgirl,

I hear what your saying ..i am new on here but this is my 2nd attempt to break off with my AP.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2010
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 9:47pm
Welcome to EAS. Thanks for sharing. Making the first cut is not easy but keep reading and posting here and you will get strength. I remember how I felt on weekends waiting to hear from him and how crappy I felt - those memories are the ones that help me remain NC.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2010
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 12:33am

I'm in Day 1.....and i thank God i found this site today. EVERYTHING you have written here is EXACTLY what i have felt, what i'm going through and have gone through. I tried numerous times to end it but he kept changing my mind,

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:09am
Vanessa,

We would love to properly welcome you to the board, so if you are ready, please start your own thread and introduce yourself. You can just copy and paste this post if you want into a new discussion. The gals here are loving, giving, and understanding. We want to see you succeed at becoming affair free and healthy again.

Inigirl,

Have you actually ended your A or are you just thinking about it? If it's over...then welcome to EAS.

(((Hugs))) to both of you.
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2010
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:47am

Thank you so much iddy2009, your support means so much to me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:09pm

Hello! Welcome! And, of course, HUGS!

----
'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2010
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:40pm

I would like to thank all of you for replying to my thread.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2009
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:53pm

LNL,

awwww, big hugs to you. the head knows what is right and good, but the heart resists.

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...

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