after 3 years, but can it work.

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after 3 years, but can it work.
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Fri, 10-30-2009 - 9:53am
i posted this on mas, honest opinions here to please. thank you. my X-AP would like to give us a chance to be together in the next 2 months before he moves away, about 14 hours. i think i know what pushed his decision was my packing up and moving and telling him i can't be a secret. i know that my husband and i are done, it's not going to work. this is what i laways wanted. can it work, honest opinions please. thank you.

MoonUnit

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Registered: 04-04-2009
Sun, 11-01-2009 - 6:13am

Hi Moonunit,
I have read all your posts and I have not posted anything in your thread so far, but I am really worried about you and your baby. I truly think that xAP is trying to persuade you to abort the baby by giving YOU the (false) hope that you and he might end up as a couple.

This man does NOT have your best interests in mind, Moonunit. He does not. If he would truly love you, he would not push you into doing something that you don't want to! (you don't want to end the pregnancy). From what I read in your posts, he is trying to manipulate you in several ways.

Please be careful, Moonunit
Don't do something you will regret ,okay?

I read through your posts again and I copied some of what you wrote:

* I'm carrying this child that is a part of him that I have an appt to terminate, and it's killing me.

* I don 't want to terminate this baby, it's breaking my heart.

* I want this baby, it's the only part of my X-AP that I have left.

* Maybe the only thing good that came out of this is the beautiful child.

* I can't do it. It's going to break my heart.

* I DO WANT THIS BABY

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YOU be the one to decide, Moonunit... not xAP...
YOU have enough love within you to take care of yourself and the baby.

Many hugs,
HTGO

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 11-02-2009 - 11:38am

Hi moon,


I would be leery of AP, for the simple reason that he is adamant that you terminate. I agree with empowerment and the others that his plan to move you in with him may be to exert influence over you. After all, you'd be on his turf, in his things.


This whole thing just seems bad to me. Your best option is to move out of your home and live as a stand-alone unit, and strive to have a safe, happy

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 11-02-2009 - 1:18pm

Moonunit -


I took a look at your post on MAS - you made the comment that your AP is becoming possessive.


This is a very ominous and, quite frankly, dangerous sign.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Mon, 11-02-2009 - 5:18pm
i wanted to let you know the results of my ultrasound. it's found that i have cysts on both my left and right ovaries. during working yest i started to bleed and cramp. the bleeding has stopped, and cramping a little. i asked the dr today if this could be the start of a miscarriage, my dr wants to do a second ultrasound. the baby he says is not growing, and no heart beat. i'm going on thurs for the second one.

MoonUnit

MoonUnit

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Mon, 11-02-2009 - 8:43pm

I'm so sorry moonunit. You have so much on your shoulders right now. Take it all one thing at a time.


I understand about the no heartbeat - I had 3 miscarriages before I had my 2 children. Take real special care of yourself right now.

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Registered: 04-04-2009
Tue, 11-03-2009 - 5:19am

Oh Moonunit, I can't imagine how you must feel right now :(
Please take good care of yourself and let us know how the second
ultrasound went, okay?

Big hug for you,
HTGO

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