after 3 years, but can it work.
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after 3 years, but can it work.
| Fri, 10-30-2009 - 9:53am |
i posted this on mas, honest opinions here to please. thank you. my X-AP would like to give us a chance to be together in the next 2 months before he moves away, about 14 hours. i think i know what pushed his decision was my packing up and moving and telling him i can't be a secret. i know that my husband and i are done, it's not going to work. this is what i laways wanted. can it work, honest opinions please. thank you.
MoonUnit

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Hi Moonunit,
I have read all your posts and I have not posted anything in your thread so far, but I am really worried about you and your baby. I truly think that xAP is trying to persuade you to abort the baby by giving YOU the (false) hope that you and he might end up as a couple.
This man does NOT have your best interests in mind, Moonunit. He does not. If he would truly love you, he would not push you into doing something that you don't want to! (you don't want to end the pregnancy). From what I read in your posts, he is trying to manipulate you in several ways.
Please be careful, Moonunit
Don't do something you will regret ,okay?
I read through your posts again and I copied some of what you wrote:
* I'm carrying this child that is a part of him that I have an appt to terminate, and it's killing me.
* I don 't want to terminate this baby, it's breaking my heart.
* I want this baby, it's the only part of my X-AP that I have left.
* Maybe the only thing good that came out of this is the beautiful child.
* I can't do it. It's going to break my heart.
* I DO WANT THIS BABY
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YOU be the one to decide, Moonunit... not xAP...
YOU have enough love within you to take care of yourself and the baby.
Many hugs,
HTGO
Hi moon,
I would be leery of AP, for the simple reason that he is adamant that you terminate. I agree with empowerment and the others that his plan to move you in with him may be to exert influence over you. After all, you'd be on his turf, in his things.
This whole thing just seems bad to me. Your best option is to move out of your home and live as a stand-alone unit, and strive to have a safe, happy
Moonunit -
I took a look at your post on MAS - you made the comment that your AP is becoming possessive.
This is a very ominous and, quite frankly, dangerous sign.
MoonUnit
MoonUnit
I'm so sorry moonunit. You have so much on your shoulders right now. Take it all one thing at a time.
I understand about the no heartbeat - I had 3 miscarriages before I had my 2 children. Take real special care of yourself right now.
Oh Moonunit, I can't imagine how you must feel right now :(
Please take good care of yourself and let us know how the second
ultrasound went, okay?
Big hug for you,
HTGO
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