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| Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:24am |
Hi Everyone,
I’m struggling with something and I am following some of my own advice and posting here to ask for some support, advice, comments or whatever you can throw my way.
So here’s the scoop. XAp called on one of our home numbers.

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Hi Luv,
Thanks for sharing what happened in your situation. I’m so sorry to hear that your H was mean to you.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thanks Dee and I’m feelin the love!
My H knows I post here and I’m going to text him in a bit and tell him your BJ suggestion. He likes the board and probably knows I’ve already come here to ask for support, I have a hunch after hearing about your reply…he will like this board even more ;)
Lots of hugs and I hope reading my long thread helped fill in some of the down time you’ve had lately.
Thanks. You know when I need a good laugh and lots of love, love, love back your way.
BTW have you ever seen the movie Heartbreak Kid?
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
So when he does something nice you say: "Put it on my tab". Too funny!
Sounds like you would have a sore neck even trying to put a dent in your tab. Good thing he likes to give rather than receive ;)
Thanks I need to COL this morning.
E1
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.
A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
E1, I'm really sorry your xAP did this. How dare him. And what the heck did he expect to come from it - like you said - the balls of him.
Of course you did the right thing, even if it meant bringing up all the old hurts. I am so glad you posted here about it because just as you pointed out, this is some of the stuff that does come up after an affair, and sometimes long after the ending. It doesn't end when the affair ends - exactly. (Clarity say that?)
Big hugs to you E1.
Thanks BandK,
It helps me see it clearer with the responses that I’ve received that it was the only way to handle it.
It is very hard though to see once again the amount of pain that I have caused. I know I have to face it but it is not easy to see my loved one hurting and know that my actions caused the hurt. Knowing my selfishness, poor choices and moral failure caused that hurt makes it painful for me to witness.
It’s not a pity party but rather owning up and accepting responsibility on my part.
In the end, I know neither of us can wallow in these feelings because no good will come of it. H says I don’t understand that from a man’s standpoint xAP didn’t try to contact me via my cell or email (which he couldn’t because I have a new cell number since D-day and no longer have the email account that he emailed me at) but H says it is like he went a step further by calling the house because that is his (my H’s turf). I guess that is why he said xAP has a lot of balls calling.
H asked me what I want him to say to xAP if he calls again. (The phone is forwarded to my H’s cell so if xAP calls he will get my H.) At first I told him to say, “My wife wants nothing to do with you. Never try to contact her again. It would be a huge mistake on your part if you did.”
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Edited 1/11/2010 9:23 am ET by luvmytwocs
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Hey E1,
IDK what is going through his mind at this point.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
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BTDT.
Hi Clarity - not hijacking or anything .. but big waves back at yah :)
Good to see you still giving such great support around here.
Hope you have a great 2010!
hugs
g2bf
Time heals nothing. It is what you do with the time that matters.
Time heals nothing. It is what you do with the time that matters.
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