Almost at 19 Months of NC

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Almost at 19 Months of NC
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 6:58pm
Last time I posted I was celebrating over one year of NC. I was in relationship with a really nice man and said some encouraging words to all of you. I wanted to let you know that it was possible to move on and begin another relationship, a healthy relationship.

I'm back to say hi again and to let you know that my relationship ended because the man wasn't what I expected him to be. Has the breakup been hard? Yes, it really smarts. It's only been a week and I already feel a bit better though. Somehow I think having been with a married man made me stronger and not willing to put up with crap.

So for all of you who are just starting out on the path of NC, stick to it. It works. It's the most painful thing you'll ever go through, harder than quitting smoking I think, but it's worth it in the long run. You'll look back months from now, a year from now like I am, and you won't believe you stayed with the man for so long ...

To all my old friends who helped and encouraged me, including Chris and Noregrets, please say Hi. I'm hurting now and could use some moral support.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 8:44pm

Laura,


I'll say more than hi.....


What a different lady you are than when you spoke of the ending of your affair. Yes, it hurts to end relationships, even healthy ones. Yet, from your post it's apparent to me and those of ou old-timers who know you that you're a whole lot

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 10:02pm

Thanks, your post is encouraging to me.

Love
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 1:41am
Hi delightful! I'm sorry to hear you're hurting. They do say that life is about learning and I'm proud of you for learning that you won't accept crap....lol

They also say that what doesn't kill us WILL make us stronger!

Keep learning and growing b/c I know you will come out on top!

Good to see you ;-)