almost separated, trying to stay away

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Registered: 12-19-2004
almost separated, trying to stay away
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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:22pm
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:33pm

I am with your H. Sorry, but you need to let this go and continue to focus on your M. Your OCD will have to get over it...

This one is real easy, why make it complicated? Just let him go on about his life and you go on about yours...you need to control your temptation, why should FB dictate or do that?

And lastly, #1 and #2 are just not cool. Your H is giving you an opportunity to work on your M, is it worth losing that for a friend on FB?

Luvin

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Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 03-17-2010
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 3:31am

Dear Lattesrock,


Wow!

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 6:34am

Lattesrock,


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In order to keep your promise to your H, then you MUST do as he asks. He has every right to be concerned over this FB jerk, and you need to respect his wishes. A little poke can easily turn into flirting and inappropriate behavior. Every one on this board knows how easily it is to fall into an inappropriate relationship, so spare yourself this agony now.


JMHO,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 10:09am

Latte,
I'm having a very difficult time understanding your obstinate course of self destruction. Your level of self-delusion is confounding and your lack of empathy and understanding of your H's perspective is alarming. Do you have some passive-aggressive agenda against your H or your M? Your reasons 1-5 had my BS alarm ringing on level 11, all except 6 - where you said you'd resent your H. Resent him for what? Drawing a line in the sand and saying that he's not going to put up with that cr@p and be treated with such disrespect?

If you came here looking for a single iota of support for your reasoning or proposed course of action, I believe you'll be 100% disappointed. What you're exhibiting right now is classic pre-A having behavior and it's as plain as the nose on your face to everyone but you, including your H. I hope that you will do some deep and serious introspection to figure out your motivations and correct your thinking.

I wish you and your family the best,
Dee

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Registered: 07-21-2010
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 10:45am

Dear Lattesrock,


I hope you can heed the tough love advice you get here.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 10:57am

Great post jdv! Affairs have a way of sneaking up on you if you don't have your armor on. Just like real life, innocent banter becomes the hook that gets you.

Latte - you are definitely playing with fire.

Bodhi