altering my life because of an affair

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Registered: 10-07-2008
altering my life because of an affair
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Thu, 04-29-2010 - 8:04am

I hate this.....I am trying to find another job and having to change my life around because XMM can still contact me here at my job, (he is a customer).

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 8:29am

Beach,


Im on here early today and have a minute to post, the rest of the group will be here soon to offer their thoughts. Take their thoughts and take on things and run with then because there are some very strong and intellegent women here. Iddy, Jane, myself and

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 8:41am

Hi Beach-


I am sorry.

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2008
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 8:46am
Hi, I don't have feelings for him any more what so ever. He proved to me what kind of person he is and I chose to not have that in my life. It just angers me I guess, because I am making no effort at all to ever contact him again, and he has a way of contact me that I cannot at times avoid.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2008
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 8:52am

Hi Jane, Thank you for your kind words. I am mostly a lurker and my story is actually no different than anyones elses. ....... I am at a point in my life that if he were to ever become face to face with me, I would walk away.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 10:49am

hi beach,

I'm an oldtimer here. I mostly read and don't post very often lately. But I want to tell you - do not let your "fear" of xAP
be the cause for you to leave your job. I like what the others are saying to you. In time you will gain strength and get your power back. He can't control you - only you can do that. Make decisions based on you and not him. And who knows, he could always leave his job and not be calling on your company any longer. Use the "I'm free of him" attitude to stand up and be strong. You go girl!