Am I crazy

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Registered: 02-02-2011
Am I crazy
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Sun, 02-27-2011 - 7:08am
Ok I hope this comes out understandable xap and I existed mostly in texting ALOT if it m-f we would literally text all day while he was at work then if he was free he would on weekends now we also talked on the phone off and on during the week actually time spent face to face wasn't huge once our twice a week always for you know what
Ok my point here is I'm seeing that the texting all the time maybe created some sort of illusion I canremember sometimes thinking when he came over mann this doesn't match whats in my head but immediately throwing the idea away..... I happen to see a pic on fb of he and the wife from a party last week (didnt do on purpose) and all I thought when I looked at this pic was that's not the guy in my head.... Am I making sense? I thinking texting all the time versus in person makes it anything you want.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 7:41am

You're not crazy at all L4H. This is exactly the issue of what an A is - fantasy. It doesn't matter if the relationship is perpetuated via texting, emailing, calling, etc. It's an illusion that we concoct within our mind. This is great progress for you, so use it when you are feeling weak. Remind yourself that xap isn't "all that" when you get the urge to contact him. You're getting there! :smileyhappy:

Bodhi

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Registered: 05-06-2010
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 8:22am

Hi LFH,

I just want to chime in here and let you know you are not crazy....unless I am as well!!

I would say that 90% of my A was also txtng, , im, occasional phone calls,

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Registered: 02-02-2011
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 10:11am
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yes yes yes you wrote what I was trying to express....there were actually times when he would call and I would think why doesn't he just text and I would get annoyed.
You can interpret text however you want and I was trying to polish a turd with it.
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 7:43pm

Feelin Lousy,

Wow! Thanks for expressing the fantasy aspect of the a so DESCRIPTIVELY!!!!

Just had an impact on me, at 4 months out.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 10-16-2010
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 1:06am

Wow u have me LMAO!

"You can interpret text however you want and I was trying to polish a turd with it"

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 8:46am

No, you are not crazy.

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Registered: 01-31-2011
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 12:50pm

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWWWW

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Registered: 11-16-2010
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 6:31pm
So true LFH,

This is further verification that A's are just plain and simple fantasy, there's nothing real to them, we created these characters (XAPs) in our heads all in the pursuit to escape, whatever it is we were trying to escape from.

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 6:40pm
Vanessa, where is the like button?? Sooooo spot on.
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.