Ambigious NC
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| Sun, 03-21-2004 - 4:30am |
Of course, after 1 month, we were back in contact again, by telephone (although not as frequently) and by email (again, not as frequently, but nearly everyday). We've stayed that way for 6 months--until 2 weeks ago. I had a telephone conversation with him that left me feeling very empty, unappreciated (I do work for a non profit we both work on together) and like an afterthought (he owes me $250 for a ticket to an event we were supposed to go to with my H (believe it or not! they know each other) but it turned out he couldn't go. He can't seem to remember if he paid me for this ticket (it was from last January).
Anway, after this conversation, I decided to have NC with him, but there was no clear cut ending this time. He has not called me since and only once sent me an innnoucous email about a game he found online for my kids. I saw him last weekend at the baseball field as we both coach our sons in Little League. We ignored one another. It was awkward. He left the field, drove away, and then about 1 hour later, drove back to come up and talk with me about something that had to do with Little League. I was rude to him--really didn't give him the time of day.
I am not even sure if he knows that i have made this decision to have NC with him--i just haven't heard from him at all. it feels very ambigious. And today, I will see him at the baseball field as we both coach our children in little League.
I really don't have a question. I guess i just think NC would be easier if there was a clear cut ending. I am nervous to see him today at the baseball field. I guess i wonder if he has also chosen to not have contact with me, too. I don't know.

Clarice, be strong in your conviction of NC. I know it's tough to see him around the neighborhood and on the ballfield. I'd say scratch up the $250 to experience even though you may well not be able to afford it. It's not worth the effort to get it from him. Let him go sniffing around this other coach.
But, if you do have cause to speak to him regarding Little League, always be courteous and polite. Not friendly but courteous! Keep it professional.