and what do I do with this?
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and what do I do with this?
| Wed, 09-22-2010 - 10:21am |
Okay - so STBX and I have struggled for the last several years for a myriad of reasons to stay married and decided around Christmas this past year to D - enter in my A, his A and there was really no question as to what we should do.


Lolly, I'm sorry you are going through this.
Although I have never had this happen to me, I would like to say what I think about the situation.
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
Fate d
Thanks to both of you -
Let me clarify - He is California, I am in Georgia - dating for now would involve skype, phone calls and emails and or texts.
Lolly, it isn't crazy at all.
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
Fate d
Hi Lolly,
I too am for reconciliation as long as there is no history of abuse and provided both parties are willing to work hard to make changes.
I’d like to suggest both you and your H writing down what you need from the other to make the M work. Write down what changes would have to take place to re-establish trust and what you need from the other to fulfill needs.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
E1, I always love your words.
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
Fate d
I really appreciate all of you input.
Lolly, no matter what you choose to do at the end of the day, you always
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
Fate d