ANGRY, finally.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
ANGRY, finally.
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Mon, 11-23-2009 - 1:20pm

Oh, my gosh! *Finally* I got really, really angry this morning at my xAP. It's like I had that ah-ha moment where I finally allowed myself to get 100% fed-up and sick of myself over this A and just want to puke on my shoes that I am wasting an ounce of energy on this dude. One little push started the ball rolling and pretty soon I was writing him an email (never to be sent) ranting about what a fool I was. It's like I had to finally admit to myself (ouch) that I really, truly was an IDIOT for all of the lies I told myself and all of the compromises I made so that I could justify the A with this jackass.

Ok, so I did allow myself to fall hook, line and sinker for his bs. I did tell tell myself I loved him. The kicker is that I believe that at the time because I willed myself to believe it. 20/20 hindsight says, "omg, that guy was not worthy of your love! what the heck were you thinking?? you can polish a turd, but it's still at turd at the end of the day!"

I had been pining, pining, pining these last few weeks. EW. I'm grossed out. Now I am pissed. I'm glad for it. I'm not even pissed so much at him, more at myself. I'm looking forward to harnessing all this pissed-offiness and doing something good with it. I think I'm going to get to 'acceptance' and 'apathy' towards him a lot faster now, and Whew! that is something I could really enjoy.

Gee, I wish I could post my email to him here. I gather that is not kosher, right?

Thanks oldtimers for continuing to educate about the fog. It takes some time before we newbies get it through our thick heads!

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Registered: 11-09-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 4:41pm

You GO, girl!!!


Can't wait to be there.

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Registered: 02-28-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 5:37pm

 

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Registered: 10-04-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 5:44pm

GOOD FOR YOU!!

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: deeulta
Tue, 11-24-2009 - 7:30pm

***Thanks oldtimers for continuing to educate about the fog. It takes some time before we newbies get it through our thick heads! ***


I second that!!


Thats great, I bet it feels good to let some of that go.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
In reply to: deeulta
Tue, 11-24-2009 - 8:11pm
NOT THE SHOES!!! Step out of the shoes...now move away from the shoes.

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