Another Day Down..

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Registered: 06-22-2004
Another Day Down..
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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 8:39am
It has been almost 2 months NC for me cant believe

im saying that. In the past days when I felt the

urge to write MM and talk to him I would come here

until I was over it. Yesterday was his birthday

and I couldnt get him off my mind all day.

Feeling really emotionally tired this morning and

went over to All Sides and found this reply to a

post that helped give me stability and remind me

why I eneded the A.

If the sex was so "mind blowing" and it was such a great escape, why come back to a SO? Can the SO ever bring you happiness if your A was so great (assuming it was)?

I think the answer to this question in the case of my MM is "because that's where his life is." Yes, he and I had some great sex, but they did too. His wife brings him great happiness I was what took up his time on the road. She was and is where he is grounded, she is his life. His "real" world..... I was his fantasy. He was always honest about that, right from the start.

As for why the affair ended? I guess got tired of being a fantasy.

Grammie

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 9:09am
Dear Lost,

I read that response early this morning too. Grammie is a very wise soul who had a 6 or 7 year affair, and ended it last year, I think. She is still reeling from the after effects, so understand that you are only 2 months out. Getting past these damn affairs can take years even though the NC starts immediatiely. Eveyone has their own progress report stats and after 4 months ended for me, I can relate to the emotionally tired stuff.

Had one of those days earlier this week....It's a constant battle, but one we can WIN.

You should be so proud of yourself for coming this far. I know I am!

Hugs,

~True~

 

 

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 1:17pm
I am so glad there are other people I can relate to, I thought I was all alone and weird in how I was feeling, like, why do I think of him every second of the day, and then when I would hear about his date with another girl I would secretly be upset, when he knows I go home with my H everynight and we sleep in the same bed, He never shows his feeling(not bad ones anyways) Everything is always great and blah blah blah, so Im sure I meant nothing to him and he was just happy to have a "good lay" here and there, thinking about him makes me want to puke and then run into his arms at the same time...is that insane or what?? This is my day 2 of no contact, I still check my email, even though he is the one that wrote last, I will not write to him again...Its cruel but I would love it if he wanted me and was calling me and emailing me and texting me all the time, He said he loved me! I was shocked, you cant just go throwing it around like that, but he did like it was no big deal, I didnt say I love him back because I dont, but I guess you should be careful what you wish for right!?!
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