Any oldtimers still lurking....

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Registered: 03-05-2003
Any oldtimers still lurking....
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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 2:28pm
I would love to hear updates!! I haven't been here in a long time. I am still sorting things thru with my marriage or lack there of, and I have had no physical contact with OM for over a year now. We tried to go the "friends" route but that wasn't what we had imagined it would be, as there is still a ton of raw emotions on both sides....unfortunately we have to do the NC thing or we wind up destroying each other all over again!! Hope you are all doing well!!

Karry

Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 4:32pm
Hi Karry! I remember your username. I ended my A about 8, almost 9, months ago and have been actively rebuilding my marriage ever since. It's going very well. I now totally understand, and agree, with the people who told me that I'd never be able to make any decisions about my future or my marriage, one way or the other, as long as I stayed living with my H but in a relationship with MM. It was sheer insantiy. Thank God I had that moment of clarity and gave my marriage another shot. I know that it doesn't work for all marriages, but I'm so thankful that its working for us.

As I just posted to Dipss, I still have good days and bad, and days when I really, really want to contact XMM. At those times, I need to remember that XMM was like a drug for me. I don't think it was really ever about loving HIM, it was about the euphoria he made me feel. Now that I've been able to identify that, it's alot easier to handle the pangs and urges when they sneak up on me.

Thanks for checking in here! It's good when "oldtimers" share their experiences! Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10