Hi Max! I've read your postings and have tried to keep up with what all has happened to you. It sounds like you have such a kind and warm heart! I'm so sorry for all you've gone through with your OW.
I've read your postings where you've expressed regret for getting involved with your OW. I think many of us are in the same boat. I'm sorry for what I did too, and know I won't EVER be involved in an affair again! We can't change the past though. What's done is done.
Anyway, got to go get some laundry done but wanted to say hi. So take care and God bless you! Btw, God DOES love us very much. He knows we're human and have made mistakes. It comforts me to know that He's a forgiving God...
thanks, im on the west coast and most folks here are on mid west or east coast so they must be sleeping now
i did my laundry already and even ironed my clothes :)
i miss OW, i am unable to keep myself from thinking of her all the time, everytime i have downtime she creeps back into my mind, we used to work together but she left work last friday and she never said goodbye to me, its only been a week and i still feel the same, no change in my demeanor, im so sad, mind u i dont want to feel like this
i kept thinking that somewhere and someday they will be a place for me and OW again
oh well, wishful thinking
im watching tv now, i read a book already and cleaned the house too, im gonna eat some cake and ice cream
I'm so sorry for all you're going through too. Wow. Last Friday, huh? That's the exact same day that OM and I ended our relationship too. Tough day! At least OM and I had a sense of closure. We DO love each other but we realized we had been acting out a fantasy that was sure to hurt other people eventually. A fact we chose to ignore for a long time. If we ever DO end up together, we both said it would only be in an honest, open relationship. We'd have to both be free. He said he was tired of sneaking around too. I'm really pleased to see THIS side of him. I knew he was a good guy. He's proving it.
Wish you too could have that same sense of good feeling about your OW even if the relationship was unable to work out. I'm so sorry for what she did to you. Leaving without saying good bye. Maybe though Max, she just didn't know HOW to say bye. Maybe she really thought it was the best way to handle it. Not that I agree at all. I think it's very disrespectful and hurtful. But perhaps in HER mind, she thought that it would be easier not to have to say bye - to deal with all the ramifications of that. I don't know. I usually give a person the benefit of the doubt. I try to keep in mind that I don't know the whole story. Maybe there's more to it that would change my opinion if I DID know. I realize though that she hurt you bad!
At least you're getting a whole lot more done than I am! I just can't seem to get in gear. My mind is a million miles away. It's like walking underwater. Always tired. No focus or energy. Can't eat or sleep well. You're way ahead of me. Laundry, ironing, even reading a book and eating ice cream! Good for you! Everyone deals with grief in their own way, and yours is a MUCH better way than mine. I'm just a lump these days...
Well, I'm going to go try to sleep some. There's so much I really NEED to do tomorrow. If I get some sleep, maybe I'll have more energy to do it.
Take care, Max! Keep posting on the Board. We'll get through this and make it eventually...
3am here in the East - perhaps you're sleeping now -I hope so. Shame you're so far away or I'd be right over with my laundry, heaven knows I need help! Or perhaps you could visit - change of scenery and my house could do with Spring cleaning........
As far as your situation, I have followed your struggle and have no words except to tell you the old standard "time heals" -I lost my husband a couple of years back and it does get easier, although I have to admit my children were my life saver at times.
Take care of yourself and realise your value as a wonderful person who deserves every happiness.
MS
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.
as u can see , bad things happen to people all the time, people break up all the time all over the world, im sure OW has her own reasons for not saying bye
try to do stuff there, i been trying to keep my mind busy , do all kinds of things that i can think of or else ill go nuts
i am like u, i cannot focus at work, cant eat well and i have difficulty sleeping as well, im so numb from what happened that i sometimes forget about the time of day, i tend to watch TV all day on the weekends but this weekend ill try not to and go out of the house and walk around
i hate weekends since i am by myself , i live alone
thanks, i am sure that u are right, "time will heal", but i have never have a situation in which time did heal, i guess there is a first time for everything
weekends are the worst for me so my pattern is to come to the board and talk/post so i wont get lonely here at home
Hi Max! I've read your postings and have tried to keep up with what all has happened to you. It sounds like you have such a kind and warm heart! I'm so sorry for all you've gone through with your OW.
I've read your postings where you've expressed regret for getting involved with your OW. I think many of us are in the same boat. I'm sorry for what I did too, and know I won't EVER be involved in an affair again! We can't change the past though. What's done is done.
Anyway, got to go get some laundry done but wanted to say hi. So take care and God bless you! Btw, God DOES love us very much. He knows we're human and have made mistakes. It comforts me to know that He's a forgiving God...
Michele
hi michelle,
thanks, im on the west coast and most folks here are on mid west or east coast so they must be sleeping now
i did my laundry already and even ironed my clothes :)
i miss OW, i am unable to keep myself from thinking of her all the time, everytime i have downtime she creeps back into my mind, we used to work together but she left work last friday and she never said goodbye to me, its only been a week and i still feel the same, no change in my demeanor, im so sad, mind u i dont want to feel like this
i kept thinking that somewhere and someday they will be a place for me and OW again
oh well, wishful thinking
im watching tv now, i read a book already and cleaned the house too, im gonna eat some cake and ice cream
max
I'm so sorry for all you're going through too. Wow. Last Friday, huh? That's the exact same day that OM and I ended our relationship too. Tough day! At least OM and I had a sense of closure. We DO love each other but we realized we had been acting out a fantasy that was sure to hurt other people eventually. A fact we chose to ignore for a long time. If we ever DO end up together, we both said it would only be in an honest, open relationship. We'd have to both be free. He said he was tired of sneaking around too. I'm really pleased to see THIS side of him. I knew he was a good guy. He's proving it.
Wish you too could have that same sense of good feeling about your OW even if the relationship was unable to work out. I'm so sorry for what she did to you. Leaving without saying good bye. Maybe though Max, she just didn't know HOW to say bye. Maybe she really thought it was the best way to handle it. Not that I agree at all. I think it's very disrespectful and hurtful. But perhaps in HER mind, she thought that it would be easier not to have to say bye - to deal with all the ramifications of that. I don't know. I usually give a person the benefit of the doubt. I try to keep in mind that I don't know the whole story. Maybe there's more to it that would change my opinion if I DID know. I realize though that she hurt you bad!
At least you're getting a whole lot more done than I am! I just can't seem to get in gear. My mind is a million miles away. It's like walking underwater. Always tired. No focus or energy. Can't eat or sleep well. You're way ahead of me. Laundry, ironing, even reading a book and eating ice cream! Good for you! Everyone deals with grief in their own way, and yours is a MUCH better way than mine. I'm just a lump these days...
Well, I'm going to go try to sleep some. There's so much I really NEED to do tomorrow. If I get some sleep, maybe I'll have more energy to do it.
Take care, Max! Keep posting on the Board. We'll get through this and make it eventually...
Michele
3am here in the East - perhaps you're sleeping now -I hope so. Shame you're so far away or I'd be right over with my laundry, heaven knows I need help! Or perhaps you could visit - change of scenery and my house could do with Spring cleaning........
As far as your situation, I have followed your struggle and have no words except to tell you the old standard "time heals" -I lost my husband a couple of years back and it does get easier, although I have to admit my children were my life saver at times.
Take care of yourself and realise your value as a wonderful person who deserves every happiness.
MS
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MSmichelle,
as u can see , bad things happen to people all the time, people break up all the time all over the world, im sure OW has her own reasons for not saying bye
try to do stuff there, i been trying to keep my mind busy , do all kinds of things that i can think of or else ill go nuts
i am like u, i cannot focus at work, cant eat well and i have difficulty sleeping as well, im so numb from what happened that i sometimes forget about the time of day, i tend to watch TV all day on the weekends but this weekend ill try not to and go out of the house and walk around
i hate weekends since i am by myself , i live alone
:(
max
ms,
thanks, i am sure that u are right, "time will heal", but i have never have a situation in which time did heal, i guess there is a first time for everything
weekends are the worst for me so my pattern is to come to the board and talk/post so i wont get lonely here at home
thanks
max