Anyone end up w/MM after divorce?

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Registered: 07-13-2004
Anyone end up w/MM after divorce?
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 9:13pm
I'm just curious.... has anyone ended up with their affair partner in a long-term relationship? i.e. did they (or you) break things off with a significant other to be with you and how did it work out? Things recently broke off for my affair partner and me (he's not married yet but is getting married in a month). I'm sure he'll still go through with it, though I have to doubt how things are going to work out since we've been sleeping together for the past year, and don't lots of affairs start once the man is bored with his wife and not before he even marries her? At any rate I have to wonder that, even if things had been different and he had broken up with his fiance and we started dating, what would stop him from cheating on me, too? Anyone have any experience starting a relationship with the person they were having an affair with, and how do you build trust in that relationship? Thank you.
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Registered: 02-16-2004
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 11:51am
I too dated my mm before he got married.

It has been 10 years now and he is still married.

We are still seeing each other.

Stop now before you have the same pathetic story as I do.
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Registered: 06-02-2004
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 12:30pm
****Stop now before you have the same pathetic story as I do.*****

GOOD ADVICE. And I'm sorry that you can't correct this pathetic story :(

 

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 1:00pm
NYLady, I love cl-noregretsever story. He did end up with his OW, but only after she initiated No Contact, and told him to come & find her AFTER he got his sh*t together and his divorce was final.... He did, and the rest is history. So, it is certainly possible, BUT -- I think you have to do it like she did, be willing to completely walk away and see what is meant to be.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 9:58pm

To answer your topic question directly:


I ended up with my OW after divorce. (I was a MM, she was a MW).


Answering your other questions from my male perspective and participation:


"i.e. did they (or you) break things off with a significant other to be with you and how did it work out? "


We both ended our first marriages primarily to address the failings of our respective first marriages and secondly to be with each other. OW ended hers first. I vacillated and sat on the fence for a while longer, trying to convince myself that I could remain in my first marriage without OW