anyone involved with a Narcissist?

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Registered: 03-08-2009
anyone involved with a Narcissist?
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Sun, 01-24-2010 - 2:32pm

Am I on the wrong board?


It has been 7 weeks NC, but really 8 weeks..sort of...


I left a week after he iniciated his 'ignore me thing'.

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 3:16pm

Confused,

I could have written your post. My MM was a narcissist undoubtedly. Not sure if you read my story or not but after 2 years of intense emotions he bought "us" a house, a new SUV, let me along with a hired decorator do the whole house, furnished down to the coffee maker, put a diamond promise ring on my finger and planned for my daughter to join his two boys at their private school, arranged all my finances, wanted me to quit my job, and planned the honeymoon.....YES...all of that. And I almost quit my job to move 3 states away to be with him. He arranged a d-day to tell his W he was leaving her and on that same day he left my life. With one single phone call he was gone from my life. That was 29 days ago and I haven't heard a word from him.

Over the course of the 2 years I too was playing the cat and mouse game. He would tell me little things to keep me hooked. Then he would sort of go into "busy" mode. The promises of happily ever after and soulmates. The seduction of taking care of me forever. The ultimate being the spending of $500k for our life. And now he is gone. Narcissism and sex addiction MOST definately.

I too have been barely functional. My M is hanging by a thread and will most likely not make it. I sleep to avoid the pain. I go to therapy, do my pieces to heal and read a whole lot about these men, much like you. It's horrifying. I am also trying to piece together my part in this whole mess.

I'm so sorry you fell into this trap. I remember your story from before. I congratulate you on staying away from this man. The pain of healing, although not easy, is essential. A lesson we have to learn on our journey back to being whole again.

Continue to post and get things "off your chest". It's a good thing to do. Just stay the course and know you are on the right path now. Knowledge is power now!

((hugs)) LL

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Registered: 11-09-2009
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 6:03pm

Thank you for re-posting this article!! I'd read it before, think I even printed it out to reference in the future and

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 6:32pm
FANTASTIC!
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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 6:47pm

Wow...do you really think he had a house for you both?

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