Anyone up for positive thinking???

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Anyone up for positive thinking???
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 6:04pm
Obviously each of us has had at least one affair! One of the things that has helped me greatly is to remember what I have gained from the whole friggin' nightmare! Yes, I gained loads!

I am so thankful for so many things as a result of my A! Will anyone step up to the plate here and share? I've shared this in the past and don't wish to bore anyone by repeating myself! The thing is that when our hearts are shattered we forget to stop and smell the flowers! Please share people! Everyone of us has been given something thru this experience that is positive!!!

When I think about it I have been given so much more then I lost! I am truly thankful for that! The pain sucks! But, as they say "No pain no gain"!

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 1:52pm
I'm glad I got to meet you.. Miss ya girl!!

Casey

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 2:44pm
Right back at you ! I'll be online at 7:30 tonight if you can make it! Ya know where to find me!
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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 3:17pm
Thank You GT! Like you I wouldn't trade the pain and loss for all the knowledge I have gained! I know this was hard for you! I have been so impressed with every single reply to my post about this and yours was beautiful! Still wish I had a magic wand though! I'd fix everything for everyone! I've never been prone to fantasies but that is a dream I've always had! To own a magic wand!
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:08am
What I have learned from my A and will take forward in life with me.

1. I fell in love for the first time ever.

2. I now know that I am capable of giving so much of myself emotionally to someone, that all I needed was someone who gave it back and loved me for who I was on the inside. (We were only physically involved for 2 months of the almost 1 year A - it was a very emotional A - everyone I have ever dated has just tried to get in my pants right away-LOL)

3. I know now that for my life long partner, I want a best friend and a lover - someone to share each step of my life and future with.

4. I will never ever accept anything less that what I deserve in a realtionship ever again.

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 7:55pm
He made me feel young and pretty. OK, so I'm needy.

I learned that I am capable of expressing passion. I learned that my husband was lying about what a man his age is capable of in bed. I learned a few things about what I like in a man out of bed.

I used to have problems with depression related to my menstrual cycle. I used to always feel incredibly sad the day before my period, to the point of a suicidal fantasy. The whole year that I was involved with the OM I never had that premenstrual depression. I think it had to do with "positive" hormones circulating through my body. I don't know if it was the sex or that fact that we laughed a lot. Now I'm back to that same once a month sadness.

That affair gave me hope for the future, got me to thinking about life's possibilities.

I love reading everyone's essays about the sweet positive things that happened with their affairs. Other women's poignant stories make me feel less alone in the world.

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 2:05am
I'm so glad you love reading the positive things! You know what? That's what will bring you home! You already have a positive user name! You have reason to believe! I don't believe in making assumptions but, I'm going to for you because you have a million reasons to believe in all that is good! You've been given a Christian foundation, a desire to have real honesty,love,and intellectual stimulation! Your name could mean "you have a reason to believe everything turns to dust" My assumption is that you have "A REASON TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING TURNS TO GOLD"! Perverbial gold that is! Money doesn't buy the things we need most! NO, YOU AREN'T NEEDY! You are hurting and will get better! What are you willing to do to get better? Take my hand and I will walk with you!???? I'm going to go start a new thread right now asking that question. You inspired me! Thank You! Walk Tall and quickly and don't look back! Know you want to! If you can't resist looking back then do it fast and keep walking forward!!! That one eyed thing works for me! How about you!???

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