anyone w/pointers to ease the pain?
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anyone w/pointers to ease the pain?
| Thu, 09-23-2004 - 4:16pm |
I thought it would be helpful to see what each of you do when the pain and memories become so unbearable that you feel a distinct need to call/e-mail or text your X. I went to the gym yesterday and worked out like an idiot. however, after saying that I will also say that unlike a healthy person that goes to the gym, I also started smoking. He absolutely hated it so I quit. Anything to ease the pain I guess. Thought maybe someone could give me a pointer or two or three.....

I go to the gym every day. It has been a routine for me for the last 3 years. I find that in the last week 1/2 I have been spending more time there than the norm. For some reason I just don't think of anything when I am there. Also I have been keeping myself very busy.
I dont work so for me it is hard to be at home. The temptation to call and e-mail are unbearable at times, but I have been doing good.
I just received an e-mail from him and I didnt reply. I am just tired of feeling pain. I want to keep strong. I HOPE U CAN. If you think of anything let me know. Here to help.
Good Luck....
I feel terrible, I caved in and sent him a reply to his e-mail. I hate myself for doing so. I told him I missed him and he just replied back saying it was ok, And it was nice to hear. I feel terrible, because I was hoping he would tell me the same. I cant stand this. It really hurts.
Sorry I needed to vent.
that is probably the #1 reason I try to stay away from MM b/c I hate how I will feel after.. How I will feel if he doesn't call right away, how I will feel if he doesn't email or if he doesn't say what I want to hear. I am not very strong my any means and still doing the hour by hour thing but I always try to think about how I will handle the aftermath. I am still trying to not feel sad every time i check email and it isn't from him.
Don't be so hard on yourself!
Hugs
You know the week we ended things I was fine, I put him to the back burner, I said to myself it was over and I was ok but this week has been terrible for me. When I received his E-mail I even deleted it sO THAT i WOULD NOT SEE IT THERE. I CAVED SO BAD AND I HURT MYSELF ALL OVER AGAIN. I dont want to be doing the day to day thing. I just wish I could go back in time and change it for myself. I thank you for the words of encouragement, I am going to try to be stronger. I hate that he owns a piece of my heart. Mon. makes 2 weeks.
You hang in there.
Thanks again..
Don't be hard on yourself! I can assure you that while I have no intention of calling or e-mailing him, it would absolutely KILL me not to respond to an e-mail or text if he initiated it. You had one little set back, just use it as a learning tool...I know easier said than done. I know it won't ease your pain, but know I am thinking about you.
:)Frisco
Thank You,
I am looking forward to a possitive week. I saw him last nite at a football game from a far. (ouch that hurt) He did not see me so that was good I was with hubby. Beleive it or not I am ok today I deleted his information from my e-mail and I have every intention on staying away and being strong. How are you doing?
Lots of luck for u this week.
Take Care
Lady Bug......
:) Frisco
Take Care....
Lady Bug