Are these guys really everywhere?
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| Mon, 05-17-2010 - 9:04am |
Many moons ago I posted here, starting with this thread
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlending/?msg=25401.1
An EA with a coworker. I'm wondering if these guys really are everywhere. I work with another guy and I'm wondering if I'm just paranoid because of what previously happened or if this is another guy looking for an A.
The current guy said he remember the day I started work almost 3 years ago? He worked on another floor but now he works on my floor and we have the same boss (?). He's made it abundantly clear that he finds me attractive, "hottest" girl in the building etc. He was talking to me and completely lost his train of thought and just stared at me. Later I asked him what that was about and he just spills his guts. How he is drawn to me, that my face is engrained in his mind.

I'm not telling them it's ok to act this way.
I think by me telling him to leave me alone I'm not saying what he said was ok.
I guess me posting this was a waste of time.
Tynk
no contact means feeling free, not feeling guilty and looking in the mirror and finally, finally
Tynk
no contact means feeling free, not feeling guilty and looking in the mirror and finally, finally&n
It's only a waste of time if you are expecting only your own point of view reflected back to you and you're not open to hearing other's thoughts.
I think that Why might be on to something, and I'm sorry that how she phrased it did not resonate with you; however, that is not her fault (not that it's _anybody's_ fault.)
My response to your post is.... Yes, there are dogs everywhere. As my H says, "they just throw sh*t to see what sticks." He tells me to not take it personally if a guy makes a dumb-a$$ play -- but he didn't finish the train of thought as one might in the situation where the Dog keeps sniffing.... "if you look like, act like, or respond like a woman who entertains that kid of attention, then you have to expect the dogs to attack."
If you were to analyze all the interactions between you and this jackhole office romeo, do you think you would have, could have, should have done anything differently? I know that a few months ago when I had an unwelcome advance from an acquaintance, I had to accept a fair share of blame for the encounter. I found fault in how I dealt with this man from the get go and had to make corrections in my behavior and attitude.
Being naive, wide-eyed innocent doesn't play for us. We're way to wise and experienced to play that role anymore.
Hope you find the answer you need.
Dee
Hello Tynk,
Thanks for posting again.