For Awakening

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Wed, 09-02-2009 - 8:54pm

I started you your own thread because you are deserving of one!


My exAP is my boss as well.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 09-02-2009 - 9:01pm

This is awesome Hope.


You are awesome! Great idea.


I already answered Awakening under the

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 12:34am

htgb, great idea. I'm so thankful for the sisterhood of support that can be found here.


Awakening, please know we are all here for you.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 6:02pm
Hi Hope,

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 04-17-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 6:51pm

Empowerment,


Great post!

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Registered: 08-20-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 7:08pm

Hi Hope


I dont even know where to start to express my appreciation for all the positive energy and reinforcement. Thank you to you Hope, BandK, E1 and Trixie ( another post) and anyone else i missed.

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Registered: 09-15-2006
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 8:07pm

Awakening,


There is a lot of positive in your situation.


First, exAP expressed that this is very difficult for him as well.

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Registered: 08-20-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 9:08pm

Dear Hope


Thanks for pointing out the positives. I pray i feel that way soon!!!


Your absolutely right that i dont feel like a complete needy

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 10:13pm

Not trying to make things harder for you but this stood out to me

>>He said he is not angry at me; its just he can not speak to me anymore. He stated when i talk to him, he can not control his feelings for me so he can not be on friendly terms.<<

He seems to be doing the NC biz with you. I dont think that makes him manipulating (well, i hope not) but just maybe he is feeling the aftermath of the relationship and that is his way of dealing too. The NC rule is always the way to go so he may found out that its the best way also for him to deal. All that said, its good for you too in order for you to rebuild. You can now hope that he sticks to the LC/NC himself and you wont have to worry about future fishing attempts.
If he wont take your calls, try his way and email or voice record your work requests. If it can be functional for you then try it. He may decide that it is too hard to shut you off completely for work and realize how inconvenient work will be, but cross that bridge when you get to it.
Stay strong and blessings to you.
SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 08-20-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 11:23pm

Maybe its my ego getting the way. xMM is always initiating one more step to total NC and not me. I keep giving my power away, i keep giving it to xMM. How do you stop a bad bad habit?


I like the voice message idea.

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Fri, 09-04-2009 - 12:40am
NC is going to be impossible while you are still working with him so you are going to have to be the strong one. These are the times we dig inside and get the strength to move forward. You are no longer the monkey dancing to the tune of the organ grinder. To break a bad habit for me would be a lot of crying, kicking, screaming, swearing (by yourself of course!) but turn to your T, friends, family and us for support and to remind yourself to keep strong. You are doing this for your own future and mental well being.
You are in a hard place right now but truly I believe what does not kill us, makes us stronger. You are doing the best you can so dont feel so lousy. Keep your faith in yourself and post when you need a boost.
Hugs.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.

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