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| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:10am |
I haven't posted in a few days about my progress, but I have been reading about everyone and posting support when I can. I had a few slip ups earlier in the week, where I emailed him (I know, slap me!), but I have not dialed his number in a week and I am just so proud of myself. I know I am making progress because there is a song that we would always hear when we were together and every time we weren't with eachother and one of us would hear it, we'd call eachother. We called it "our song" even though it had nothing to do with us.... Anyway, of course this last week I've been in tears and had to turn off the radio when it came on. Well, the last two days I have forced myself to listen to it when it came on and even sing all of the words. This is a huge deal to me, and a big step.
Now, if I can only remove him from my buddy list - anyone done that yet? I have moved the cellphone off of my desk at work, and now it's in my purse (still on, but I'm not staring at it all day).
Anyone want to let us know the little things you have done in an effort to get over your OM? Be proud, we are all doing this, slowly but surely!
Hugs to all!

Congratulations on your progress...you are doing GREAT!
I HIGHLY recommend removing him from your buddy list. I did this, and it was SO liberating. It is torture to stare at his screenname on there and wonder if he's going to pop up. I thought it would be worse, but it really felt great! I also got rid of all his old emails, and that was very freeing, too. Seeing his name and all those reminders of the A were painful and kept me in the past.
YOU CAN DO IT! Let us know!
L)
Lily
That is so great! It is so relaxing to not be staring at your cell phone wondering when or IF he is going to call or not!
My BIG step was to delete any emails from him and any copies of emails that I had sent to him. Another step for me was to stop checking Yahoo to see if he was signed in (I haven't been able to delete him from my list YET).
I do know I will never be in an affair with him again, with anyone again. The one with him was enough to make me realize I have a very full and very blessed life. I need to love the things I do have and enjoy what I can right now and not hope for the IF's.
Another step I took was to take his ring tone away on my phone. Now he is just another person (He hasnt called though) on my phone, no one special to jump and run when the phone rings. THAT was the most liberating thing for me...If I hear the song that was his ring tone I just laugh now thinking "what the heck were you thinking girl??"
Hugs to you NYC..It does get easier..maybe not right away but it will!!
Smiles
MB