Back after 13 Months ......and better!
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| Sun, 04-24-2005 - 12:19pm |
hi all. not sure whether any one remembers me from about 13 mths ago - MM with OW single both in military on deployment for 6 mths etc etc. You guys helped me out so much - I never thought I would get over the A, but as I sit here now, so long down the track I can honestly say that I am an evolved being having learnt from the experience. When it ended I thought I would never make it thru it. There was so much advice this way and that. What I will say is that going NC is the ONLY way that I made it thru this. It hurt.....my God it hurt....but I threw myself wholly and solely into my marriage on return....and we now have a brand new beautiful daughter-things couldn't be better. I waivered a couple of times - sure - I rang when drunk, sent a b'day card etc. When I was sober though i kept coming back here and bouncing ideas off you guys!!
There is always going to be that nagging doubt about whether , having done it once it may happen again - but that is what I have to live with. I must say that looking back at the mental turmoil I was in and what I was risking - it is not something that should be done without seriious serious soul searching. I know people fall in love - i thought i was surely in love with OW at the time - how wrong I was!!! Thankyou all so much for your support at the time. This forum is a must for those in the NC newbie situation.
Once again thanks. Hopefully i can be of some assistance to those coming out of As in the future.
Boe

Boe
I remember you, Congratulations on the new baby and your alive and kicking marriage, thanks for returning and giving encouragement to those in need.
Free
Free,
And I you!! Your advice was brutally blunt at the time - but I admit it was the right advice thanks so much!!! I really didn't like it at the time but bursting the bubble - how ever painful - is a must to live your life again.
Boe