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| Thu, 02-24-2011 - 12:53am |
Phone call from an unknown number at 7.45am
"Hello, Kat speaking"
"It's me. Please don't hang up. I know where you are. I'm right across the road. I know you have a meeting this morning, and I know you have to leave your hotel soon."
"There's nothing more to say. I told you in my email, I can't see you again. I hope that one day you'll understand it's for the best."
"Why haven't you answered me? I've emailed you at work, I've emailed you at home, I've sent you texts, I've called the hotel where you usually stay, I've been watching the house where you used to live."
"I didn't get your messages. I blocked your numbers."
"How can you do this? You're treating me as if I've done something horribly wrong."
"We have done something wrong. I love my husband and I want my marriage to work. I want to live my life with honesty and integrity and to make decisions that my children would be proud of."
"I understand and I respect that. But surely we can still be friends?"
"No, we can't. Being friends doesn't work."
"Well if we can't be friends, maybe we could just see each other occassionally and have some fun?"
"No. Absolutely no."
"My feelings for you will never change. You know where to find me. You can call me anytime."
"Please don't try to contact me again. Goodbye."

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I am sorry you were susceptible to such a fishing attempt. I know that you are probably experiencing a whole wealth of emotions right now, but do not beat yourself up to bad.
Sure, as soon as you heard his voice you could have/should have slammed the phone down right away. However, being such a short time out I know that is not an easy thing to do, and I myself would not have been able to show such restraint.
But if you (we) focus on what you did say to him then you can be proud of yourself for standing your ground and letting him know what is what! I am proud that you did not engage with him and stuck to your guns.
You have done the right thing by blocking him, and I am sorry he was able to get through.
Sadly I don't think this will be the last of it, so you must be prepared for what you will do differently the next time! You already know nothing he has to say is of value or will change your decision. But be proud that hearing his voice did not send you instantly swimming back for those feel goods which you were so addicted to just a short time ago. This speaks volumes Kat.
Sending you much love and renewed strength and resolve this night (well its day there...but you know what I mean) :)
peace, light & hope
Foggy
I am sorry you had a call come through from xap, when i read your responses to his questions I thought you made yourself clear by keeping your answers brief and to the point. Reread what you posted and take strength from the knowledge you have gained in what is important to you. You did not cave into his trying to draw you back in and you should be proud of that fact and be able to arm yourself from any further attempts on his part. Hugs to you Kat:)
I am so proud of you.
Kat
You handled it with dignity and grace. I cant believe these men - fishing and then asking for sex! Whats that about! God its like all the emotions we felt were just so easy to sweep away when no longer 'required' to get the dessert.
You did much better than I would have done with a ph call-be proud of your kick ass self :)
Iggy x
Kat,
Since JAM was the one to make contact, there is no reason to start your NC counter over again. He needed answers, and any human being with an ounce of decency would have given them. Your replies were brief and to the point. You did not engage him with your own inquisition and stuck to a matter of fact script, and for this I am very proud of you. I know that had to be difficult, but you handled it with real class. I hope this didn't set you back too badly, but we would all understand if you are a little shaky for a few days. It will pass, honey.
Just keep going as you have been. You are doing a remarkable job.
(((Hugs))
I am so proud of you! The decision to not give in and buy into this chaotic-ness, especially since we know how much you have been struggling with YOUR feelings in all of this - is MONUMENTAL. You have just made the BEST decision of your life.
Like Iddy said - no need to restart your clock - Stay the course, You are doing so well. Know that we are all cheering you all on!
That was one class act Kat.
Nope, no way!
AWESOME!!!!!!!
KAT!!!
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