back to square one every nite
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back to square one every nite
| Thu, 02-17-2005 - 11:27pm |
hi all,
during the day im ok at work even if OW is there, i feel a bit angry at her but during nite time when i come home it feels like all the progress i made emotionally is taken away and im back to square one again, i live by myself so maybe it has something to do with it, i wish they can make a TV set that would talk back
thats why i post so much here to not drive myself crazy at nite, i watching the military channel now .......
:(
max

I'll keep this one short. Not that I am doing much better now, but I have work in the day and school at night and that does help me get through the evenings quicker. You have to find a hobby or an activity to do. This will a) introduce you to new people, b) bring back fun into your life and c) help you forget her because you WILL realize there is more to life than HER.
Here are some ideas of what's available in my area.
We have Adult education courses (and I know for a fact that the bay area has this too) where you can take anything from cooking to literature group to learning a new language, to doing outdoor activities.
Are you athletic or want to be? Join a gym, better yet find out about your local sports club. they offer team sports for every sport at all levels and you are placed on team and get to know people that way. I play flag football and softball and we always go for drinks after the games and meet people that way..
Just some ideas. I am still struggling too, and I know how hard it is.....but you got to get out of your house and stop letting your mind race and thinking about HER.
Hi Max,
I know exactly what you're talking about. Throughout my journey of trying to get over my A, I often find myself doing great during one part of the day - focusing on work or other aspects of my life - and then I feel like a freight train hits me and I begin thinking about the A and xMM over and over again. For me, the difficult times are during the day b/c during the A we would email nonstop (particularly in the mornings and the midafternoons). Then of course there's lunch time, which we often used to spend together. My advice is to change your routine, make it something new, so that it doesn't remind you of xOW. For example, I've heard that when people try to quit smoking the best advice is to change your habits for the times in which you were compelled to smoke. I don't know if that's helpful, but it seems to make sense to me. Another suggestion I have is to allow yourself an allotted time to "grieve." Tell yourself, I can think about xOW from 7-7:15, but at 7:15 I have to step away from it and take a walk or do something else. Just my thoughts.
I know now is a very hard time b/c the break-up is new and the wounds are fresh, but each day you will get incrementally better. You just have to allow yourself to do that and recognize that it won't happen overnight.
Blue