Back to Square One....

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Registered: 08-17-2010
Back to Square One....
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 11:59am

Welllll.....I broke NC yesterday.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 2:57pm

Whoa, wait. wtf?
xAP threatened to kill your H and then you?

This goes well beyond the scope of just bothersome texts from a drunken jackhole. I hope that you will seriously weigh the veracity of these threats and consider very consciously the right of your husband to know that his life has been threatened.

This is a very serious matter.

Dee

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Registered: 08-17-2010
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 3:02pm

I did.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 3:05pm

Yeh, we're cross posting and when I wrote, I was assuming that you had not told your H about the A.

Your husband is a lot more controlled than either my H or I would be under that circumstance. After a threat like that, my X would no longer have the ability to text, if ykwim.

Best to you and H,
Dee

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Registered: 08-17-2010
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 3:26pm

I hear ya.

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Registered: 01-04-2010
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 12:11am

pinky et al,

i resurrected this thread because i wanted to admit that i'm back to square one too. almost 2 weeks (made it to 12 days), which is my record. its all my fault, it was stupid, and i regret it majorly.

i had way too much to drink on friday night, and i drunk dialed him. obviously i deleted him from my phone, but i have his # memorized. god i wish i could forget it so badly. my first attempts at NC failed because AP would bait and fish me daily, constantly texting or emailing. for the past 12 days, he has been absolutely silent, and i've been so grateful. but, as is the case with alcohol, inhibitions disappear, judgment flies out the window, and we make dumbass choices. so basically, the entire state of being in an A is similar to being drunk.

i drunk dialed him, he answered, i said 'hey..." in kind of a broken voice, and he said "why are you calling me? i thought you were done with me" and hung up.

wow. he was the mature one. he was the one making sense. and i was the drunken fool calling HIM instead of the other way around.

so, i too am starting from scratch. tomorrow is a new day. and boy have i learned my lesson.

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Registered: 07-29-2010
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 7:14am

Hi Pinky


Dee made the best point any of us could offer...none of this matters anymore.

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Registered: 08-17-2010
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 4:38pm

EX, thanks for your honesty here....alcohol can be a dangerous thing, can't it?

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 9:20pm

I also heard it suggested never to go out and get a new hairdo after a breakup...we can come out looking bad again :) It was also mentioned that, if you see a woman with a bad haircut, know she is in the midst of a bad breakup...the poor thing.


Just adding a little levity :)



"You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present"

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Registered: 08-17-2010
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 10:34pm
ROFLMAO!!!! Hilarious...I'll avoid the salons for a little while then!
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Registered: 01-04-2010
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 11:35pm

holy $hit...this is SO funny because when i was in college i had a roomate who used to dye her hair a different color every time she had a break up!!

thank you guys for the humor :)

i think i can handle the salon, for me the problem is the salOOn. hah, play on words there, get it? at least we all still have our sense of humor.