Bad Actor

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Registered: 01-25-2011
Bad Actor
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Sat, 01-29-2011 - 11:20am

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Registered: 08-10-2010
In reply to: decadelost
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 11:33am
My dear dear Decade,

I really wish Foggy would come here and tell you how it was for him when he first ended it. Him too, understood that NC was necessary and although he hurt badly, he kept going on. Foggy, if you're reading, please post.

Decade, I know how acting can be. I too had to act, had to move to the same couch as H, snuggle up to him so he could hold me. I cried so many times while he was doing this (I still have tears in my eyes just writing that sentence). My H noticed the change too, he asked me what was going on.... To keep up the face, I said "I'm just emotional. I really need affection now a days. Can you please hug me? Must be midlife crisis etc"... Mid life crisis at 37 will not give me a very long life, would it? But I had to say something.
Once he even asked me if there was something else he should know about and I said there was nothing.
But now, after 3 months, it doesn't hurt as much. It's still hard some days, but I'm so determined to get over this that I see results daily. 5 steps forward, 1 step back, 3 steps forward, 2 back. As long as I'm advancing, it's good.

Decade, you fake it till you make it. And you ARE making it. Yes you made a mistake (we all did), but now we are fixing the mistakes and in time, you will feel better, I promise.

Big hugs to you
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Registered: 05-15-2010
In reply to: decadelost
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 11:49am

Good Morning Decade,

I understand what you are saying about the acting and changing our habits.