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| Sat, 12-11-2004 - 3:14pm |
Could my luck get any worse??? I swear, it must be karma!
So, H & I got up this morning and drove half an hour to the body shop to pick up his truck. While we were waiting, H saw an anmial shelter across the street. Knowing I am a big animal lover, he said, let's go check it out.
We get there, and it's an all cat shelter (my fav!). The girl who works there was telling me that if you can't adopt (we have 3 cats already) you can sponsor a cat for a small annual fee. SOUNDS GREAT!! (I swear this story has a point, just bare with me...) So I'm walking through one of the 'cat houses' and this beautiful gray long hair comes up to me and starts purring and rubbing his head against me. He was the sweetest, cutest kitty there!! I just fell in love w/ him instantly! "THAT'S HIM, I said That's the one I want to sponsor!" "Oh, that's ______ (fill in my xOM's name!!!!)" the girl working there says! Needless to say, I chose another cat!
Diva

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RZ -
Thanks for replying to my post. Yeah - hearing his name yesterday (in such a weird way) threw me off. I hate when stuff like that happens. I mean, geez, there were over 100 cats there - and how many men's names are there?? Like a million??? What are the odds??
Diva
Hiya AD,
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Perspective thang... With over 100 cats there, what would be the chances of a cat with a man's name NOT being the same as your exMM's name? LOL
Posie
Posie,
Now that's a good point. Which way to look at it?
Elizabeth
Hiya RZK,
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Well, I (and many others before & after me) played the game of "If I see x-y-z or a-b-c happens, well it's a *sign* that I shouldn't give up hope!"
After admitting this to my therapist and having been told it's probably one of the most common forms of what some refer to as the bargaining stage of grief and it also demonstrates denial, I decided it was a pretty pointless exercise. And concluded that I wasn't even original in my manner of grieving, LOL!
It didn't work for me, RZK. Nor did it work for any with whom I've discussed & who also admitted to this bargaining/game-playing. Another affair survivor I know pretty well told me she'd read his horoscope each morning for a *sign* of whether he'd finally break down and contact her today to declare his undying love. Yet another (a woman whom I respect a great deal) confessed that if her morning commute was of 20-30mins, he was over her, while if it were longer than 30mins or more torturous than usual, well it was proof that all she had to do was endure because he, too, was suffering!
The need for these bargains/games dies off of its own accord, when we move on to the next stage of grieving. Whether it's because our bargaining or games don't appear to work or because we simply begin remembering that we existed for x-years on this planet before hooking up with our ex affair partner and re-discovering that we are entirely capable of continuing to exist after having hooked up with our ex affair partner.
Since we all of us have free choice, YOU choose how YOU wish to look at it, RZK. ;)
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie
Diva,
You knew I was going to post to this! ROTFLMAO
Poor Diva!
sc
Posie,
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I hope that I didn't imply that this cat having xOM's name gave me hope!! That was not my intention at all!! My point was simply that it was ironic and it sucked. It would have been nice if the cat had my H's name, or nephew's name, or father's name, or Uncle's name, or brother's name or best friend's name, or friend's H's name...basically, any name OTHER than xOM's name!
Diva
UHG -
Man, you have no idea how much I wish I could have called you yesterday when it happened!!
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It's scary how well you know me ;-) Of all the cats in that place - THAT ONE had to be the one who tried to 'bond' with me!! It would just be my crappy luck! I swear, when she told me the cat's name, I just wanted to boot it across the room (and I LOVE cats!!).
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Get this, my friend was married then divorced then remarried. Her 2nd H was also married once before. His first wife has the same name as her (my friend). THEN her 2nd H's 1st wife (the one who has the same name as my friend) remarried to a man w/ the same name as her 1st husband (now my friend's H) - did that make sense??? Oh - and to top it off, my friend and her H have a baby w/ the same name as my xOM (luckily, they call him by the proper name and not the nickname, which is what xOM & the cat both went by)!! What fun :-)
Diva
Hiya AD,
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No, poppet, but others might have, and at one time I certainly would have. Heck, I certainly did enough of it for both of us in my day!
You are talking/typing to someone whose exOM was a fireman, and see, fire engines are red, London buses are red, too. So, Hey! A red bus! He must be thinking of me, too!
I suspect few here have any real inkling of just how bad I had it. Or how far I've come. You'll just have to trust me when I say that I was far, far worse than anything I have seen on these boards. As for denial, Cleopatra came to me for lessons & found herself on her knees murmuring, "I'm not worthy! I'm not worthy!", ok?
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And mine was that with that many cats in the place, it'd probably have been weirder if one or more *didn't* the same name as exOM. Unless, of course, exOM's name was something like, Fido, Spot or Rover... ;)
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But why, AD? It seems most fitting! By the way, I have two cats whom I love dearly.
Let us consider cats for just a wee moment...
Amongst other things, your average cat:-
(1) Likes just about anyone so long as they're getting plenty of food & plenty of stroking (such stroking to be at *cat's* convenience rather than anyone elses')...
(2) Does not make loyalty any kind of priority - If you feed me and stroke me, I like you well enough to deign you worthy of my occasional presence, and if you don't well there's always someone out there who will...
(3) Plays with it's prey before killing it or simply losing interest...
(4) Is an absolute hedonist sparing precious little thought to others thoughts, feelings & emotions outside its own self - all is pretty much right with the world so long as I am getting some food and stroking at my convenience...
(5) And MALE cats will travel miles to get their leg-over, sing sweet songs of love to the FEMALE cat saying whatever needs to be said to achieve said leg-over, and then having got-some they remorselessly beat-feet back to wherever they get their usual food and stroking!
Now tell me that cat didn't have the right name!! LOL
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie
Edited 12/12/2004 10:20 pm ET ET by posiepops
You know what i feel? I think that it was some kind of sign that made Diva hear the name again, just to test her strength. After all she rejected the cat, cute or otherwise right??? Simple explanation :-)
Good going Diva ... that name... want it right out of your head as far as you can help it
take care
Trish
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