Like a Bad Penny

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Like a Bad Penny
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 1:09pm

He keeps turning up.

I was still asleep. My phone rang. Ive put in so many resumes and applications and jam has been the LAST thing on my mind for so long..."private number" meant ...Oh this must be a job!

The GULL = I didnt recognize his voice. He started with....I wanted to tell you on New Years Eve, I left my wife. I packed a bag. I came and sat at your place till 8 in the morning....you never showed up ...now, though she's taken me back and everything's fine. were gna work on our marriage - and Oh...Ive got to take my mom to the morturary today.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 6:58pm

Michelle,

Sorry you had such a frustrating start to your day.

Iddy covered a lot of what I was thinking when I read the thread so I won’t rehash it.

What I would like to focus on is the message you are sending xAP by your interaction when these encounters happen. First I have to ask what message would you like to send him? That it is ok to show up at your house unannounced like he did about a month ago. That it is ok to call you at some unthinkable hour in the morning to peddle his toxic bull pucky?

When you come here and post after those encounters, you are clear to us that you are upset, feel intruded upon and that you want him to go away and leave you alone.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:28pm
What a jerk! But you saw right through him... you ended the call... and you are moving on. Spit on his memory... and keep up your strength!
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:33pm

E1,

Thank you.

Yes, I get that.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 7:35pm
NL....big hugs to you! I'm sorry he keeps turning up! UGH! I'm sorry I'm just reading this now; but looks like you got lots of great support from our EAS community! I too am glad you were not home on new years.
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 8:10pm

I should be so happy as well...Shouldnt I?

:(

Ill get there. I will.

Man I dont know who's sicker. Him for trying or me for continuing to believe it meant something.

Ill get it, I will.

Im going home and going to bed. :)

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 8:31pm

yah...Bodhi...

the DEATH GRIP.

Jeezzz...I thought that part was OVER.

You know what???? IM GOING TO LEARN PATIENCE WHEN THIS ONES OVER!!!!!

YOUR WORDS..YOU CAN ESCAPE HIM. If nothing else...THAT GIVES ME HOPE. there has to be a way. EVen if its GNAWING MY OWN ARM OFF!~!!!! HAHAHAHHAHAHAH

This life thing, where you dont live it in a vacuum, but in RELATION to everything going on around you...all these moving, uncontrollable PARTS, I mean PEOPLE....yah....this is tough. :)

Thank you. Your post made me smile.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 8:40pm

TIME - REFLECTION - DEEP GROUNDING WORK

wash. rinse. repeat.

Cant Control

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 8:42pm

Thanks K!

Im going to reflect alot this evening.

Need to do some HOMEWORK!!!!!!!

Work my 12 steps ...even though...i have NO flippin clue, what step this pertains to, I at least KNOW it does! :)

Ive pictured myself spatting on his memory about 50 times since I read you say that!!!! hahaha

xo,

Michelle

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 9:02pm

Oh Honeybunch Im so sorry this has happened again.

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Wed, 01-19-2011 - 10:04pm

aww Michelle,

Sorry that