Because I am real

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Because I am real
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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 6:03pm

Using "him" because most of us are female, insert "her" if needed.

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 6:13pm

THERE YOU GO!!!!

The Truth will set you free!!!!

Once you see that - then you start asking those tough questions of yourself, why you'd put up with THAT KIND OF REALITY...

and there you are....DOWN THE ROAD from bein in an affair.

Its SO VERY SIMPLE.

Just not easy...

Thanks for keepin it REAL!!!

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 09-25-2006
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 6:17pm
Here's another one. Most men do not respect their other women. They'll have sex with you but they wouldn't want that women to meet his family and friends. Men are more afraid of rejection much more than women, it whacks their self esteem. These statements are not all men obviously, but most. Much research done on these topics by myself.
Onward and upward.
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Registered: 03-08-2009
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 7:14pm
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Registered: 11-16-2010
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 7:43pm

Hi Energy/Alice

Yes of course "it's for the kids", because staying with their mother and sleeping with another woman is the perfect relationship model to show their kids lol

Picked that up from the HL and i couldn't resist.

xoxo

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Registered: 11-16-2010
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 7:54pm

Hi Energy

Yes they do not respect the other woman, but do they respect their wives?

The person who is working for them, cleaning for them, cooking for them, raising their children blah blah blah. It's fair to say they do not respect any woman at all.

My xMM had a dday and still persists in getting back into my life, when his wife was so gracious enough to give him another chance, she also held back from contacting my H (she didn't want to hurt my family).

Respect all around from my xMM LOL

xoxx

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Registered: 11-16-2010
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 8:02pm

Ditto Michelle, the truth will set you free!

xxooxx

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 1:47pm

My xMM had a dday and still persists in getting back into my life, when his wife was so gracious enough to give him another chance, she also held back from contacting my H (she didn't want to hurt my family).

I wish more women like you who are contacted by MM after D-Day would call them out to their W. Letting her know that her groveling, begging H who is begging to stay in the M is still trying to keep both of you. The thing is, the MM is crying, lying, pleading and kissing his W butt after D-Day to stay in the M and pretending that they are going to be faithful when a lot of times sadly they are continuing to lie and cheat behind their W back. My personal opinion is that the OW and BS should become alies and make the MM choose one or the other and not straddle the fence. My DH and I made a promise on everything that we love that we would never bring a third party into our M ever again. If we felt like we wanted to be with someone else we wouldn't hold the other person hostage in a fake M between two ppl.

I also have to say that I respected my DH much more than my xap. My xap was a man who didn't care that he was sleeping with a M woman or himself (neither did I at the time). I would have never wanted to make a future with a man who brings out the worse in me and enables my bad behavior. I'm not trying to say in any way that my xap talked me into an A or made me do anything, My behavior was slimy and I was at my lowest with my xap. I am just saying that my DH wants an honest, loyal woman who respects herself and won't stay hidden in a hotel room.