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been 2 weeks now
| Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:15pm |
hi all,
its been 2 weeks now since OW ended our R, tried NC but unable to do it 100% since i see her at work, no calls or text but she sent me an email last nite, i was doing well considering and that email threw me off course again
i find that this board is like an outlet for me, i been posting here so much just to keep my sanity, thanks all
just need to move on, im having a hard time but ill survive, ahhhh , im going nuts, u gals already said it all , just the opposite, your MM sounds like my OW and i am having the same experience and feeling just like u all
im going crazy girls !!!!, this feeling we are all having is unbearable right now
max

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Max,
I'm another tough-love advocate and will once again tell you....STOP answering her phone calls, and DELETE her messages before you read them. This is psychological warfare on her part, and you should know this from your military (? can't remember what branch you were in) training.
I work with my XMM too. Everyday, up close and personal, only *WE* are not allowed to talk about the affair in any context whatsoever.(I implimented that rule from day #1), I have a 9 month success story going on, and so can you if you stop being a victim.
You can do this!**Id**
Edited 2/25/2005 9:23 am ET ET by id_diosyncrity
You *want* to contact her more often than is healthy for YOU!
Max, determine to be strong and STICK with it. Next time she sends you a how are you email, simply reply by saying *I'm doing GREAT and insist that from now on, YOU keep our communication to strictly business as I will no longer reply to you on a personal level*
When she calls, say... sorry I'm in the middle of something and need to go.
Unfortunately, you WILL go through another phase of withdrawal which will happen a couple days and weeks AFTER you realize she's no longer contacting you at all... that phase is actually worse then the one you're in now...so, start bracing yourself and be prepared.
STOP driving yourself crazy and let go of your obsession today... RIGHT NOW! In a couple of months, you'll realize it was the BEST thing you have done for yourself!
In the back of your mind, tell yourself that IF this relationship IS meant to be....it will happen the RIGHT way somewhere in future time. When it doesn't you'll realize it was never meant to be because you were worth so much more!
Be strong for YOU! The benefits will be well worth it.... you'll see ;)
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