Better Off

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Registered: 04-08-2009
Better Off
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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 1:23pm

Hi All-


I was here a while back when my AP and I called it quits early on in our relationship but that didn't last and we went through at least 3-4 tries of NC but always ended up back in the same spot.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
In reply to: abigmess
Fri, 09-18-2009 - 2:45pm

Hi there and welcome back,

I can relate to your post, sounds a lot like what was going through my head during my A. Feels a lot better not to have that constant nagging internal dialogue, doesn't it! Congratulations on your 4 days NC. You can do this; addictions are not easy to get over but it is doable and you will be much much happier for it.

big hugs!!

trixie xo



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Registered: 04-04-2009
In reply to: abigmess
Fri, 09-18-2009 - 3:04pm

Hey abigmess,

I just read your post. I want you to know that I am SO PROUD
of you. You are showing remarkable strength by ending it this way.
I know you feel weak, but you are FOUR (!) days NC already. This is awesome. Keep in mind that this is your way out of the maddening roller coaster ride. You are on your way back to LIVING LIFE.

hugs
HTGO

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Registered: 12-23-2008
In reply to: abigmess
Fri, 09-18-2009 - 7:26pm

I think you bring up a key point. I can't even tell you how many times I "ended" with XAP before I ended - it's embarassing to even think about. But I always felt bad ignoring him, felt like if I were in his shoes I'd be devastated, felt that I owed him a goodbye.