Blocking and walking question
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| Sun, 06-20-2010 - 8:16pm |
Hi,
A week ago, an EA I had ended abruptly when his wife discovered evidence. I am actually OK and not feeling much desire to contact him. I've been doing a lot of reading here, which has been more than helpful.
However, my biggest fear is keeping this info from my husband and am terrified that the wife will someone contact me or my husband. I've decided to keep this from my h as I've learned my lesson, but the fear they may find us almost has me spilling the beans and I would hate to do that if it's not necessary.
I "Blocked and Walked" once my xap told me his wife found out. That was only after I had told him I wanted to "be there for him." I thought about it and figured I needed to just disappear.
My fear now is that my blocking him might have angered him to the point of revealing all my info to his wife. I have no idea if they are ok. I have no desire to contact him again and I do wish them well, but I have this nagging fear that since I blocked him (after I told him I'd support him), he will join in this united front with his wife and come after me. Note: I was his 12th affair, apparently.
Am I over-thinking this or being over-paranoid? Has anyone run across this "united front" that I speak of? Any thoughts are appreciated!
Thank you,
oneflewover

Oneflewover,
There is always the risk of a dday. Nothing you can do to stop it. If its going to happen it is going to happen. Stressing about it does you no good. That is the price we pay. And yes I have seen a united front before. if such were to happen it wouldtell u how he really felt about you. he may just want this whole thing to go away and just letwork on M. that is what normally happens after a dday. can he email you? if so block it....what makes you think he is so upset at you? He probably not thinking about you, he is probably showing her how committed he is to her right now. Even he is waiting till the heat is off. Let them be and get back to you and your H. Not point in getting upset you have no control over. Focus on you and not what his W may or may not do.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Good Morning One~
You need to just let it go....