This Board is Healing Waters

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Registered: 01-23-2010
This Board is Healing Waters
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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 9:30am

For those of you who come to this board and have no intention of ending your A you are yet again being insensitive. This board was healing waters for me one year ago when I ended my A. That was the worse time of my life and the ppl and posts on this board helped me as I read every day. If you are not serious about ending your A please do not post here because it is too hard to end an A and come to this place and read a post from someone actively involved in the A madness.


We were all insensitive and selfish to have an A in the first place, and if you come here and write posts while you are involved in an A, you are continuing your selfish behavior. Stay away from this safe place if you are not ready to end your A. The world looks at women who cheat in a very negative light and this is one of the few places we can share with each other and talk about our pain and get out of our A and stop the bad behavior. It's just cruel to post knowing that you are still in an A.


Sorry if this is inappropriate Iddy, but a few of the recent posts just made me so mad because it seems as though some ppl don't realize how some of us used this board as a survival method when ending our A. Stay off if you are not serious.

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Registered: 10-20-2009
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 9:45am

Mom, you are so very right.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2010
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 9:49am
I will send you an email shortly. It's good to know I'm not alone with my shortcomings.
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 7:46pm

Amen!


There is no magic, there is no easy way, there is nothing that can make an A end overnight.


It is hard. It is sick. It is feeling bad. Sometimes for days on end.


No one here can end an A for you. You have to stand on your own two feet and do all the hard things that it takes.


We are blessed with so many people here that have done all the leg work and found out what it takes to do it, and the easy part is just reading and doing the actions.


Failure is your own self destructive doing.


We all have bad times when our mind goes to the dark side, but there are rays of sunshine here to help us, and carry us through.


Thanks to you all who have been so supporting and led the way.

We only miss what could have been.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2010
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 8:02pm
This has definitely been a survival tool for me also.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2010
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 8:37pm

Mom


I too agree with you about this being a safe place.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 1:00am

I couldn't agree more. This board was my safe house. I was stunned when I first discovered it, I couldn't believe there was a forum discussing the hell of ending an affair. I read for weeks before I posted. It's been so long ago, I don't remember any inappropriate posts or posts that made me feel uncomfortable. But sadly yes, I've seen a few here and there. But honestly I just shake my head and go on. As much pain as there is here on EAS, there is more support and compassion to be doled out. Thank you all for my healing and thanks to everyone who continues to help others.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 9:23am

Dear Mom,


As so many others have said, this board has been wonderful! I would not be where I am today without the help of women and men from this board.


I would not have stuck to ending my A without the support here. I received so much good advice and support and my only regret is that I didn't find this board sooner. Two years was tooo long to invest that much time in something other than myself and my family, but hindsight is always 20/20.


Thanks for speaking out!


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