Break up question

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Break up question
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:35pm
I was just curious about something. I am not sure how to word this so please be patient. Do you think that a break up is easier or less painful or whatever if your MM leaves his wife for you, you live together and then realize it isn't going to work out and break up then? Or if you end the affair before he leaves and you never know if it would have worked out?
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Registered: 11-02-2004
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:38pm

More painful for who? You, or the OM?

1T

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2005
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:52pm
Well, selfishly...me, but I guess for him also.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:36pm
Hi! Assuming you're single then obviously ending it after MM has made the choice and left his W would be the more painful for him. As far as from your point of view - personally I would rather end it before finding out how it may have worked out but I'm sure

MS
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 8:04pm

I think you end the affair because you're tired of lying and skulking in order to settle for snippets of time.


If xMM REALLY wants to have a full ife with you, he certainly knows, RIGHT NOW, what it takes to leave his current wife, file for divorce, get his life setled in order to have a life with you......


BTDT


I suggest you start by dating the guy AFTER the divorce is final and don't be too hasty to move in with him. Take the time to get to know ALL of him, not just the "best behavior" you see while inside the affair.