Breath knocked out!!! Help.
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| Tue, 11-02-2010 - 3:24pm |
OMG, OMG, OMG. I just learned some devestating news about xAP. I want soooooo badly to reach out, send a text, tell him how sorry I am for him. That I'm thinking of him during this time.
I don't hate him; never did. Just recognize it was a mutual ego-boosting thing we did. He never claimed to love me, I never claimed to love him. We only expressed a fondness for one another. We never fought, never had ugly words. There was no ugly goodbye.
The compassionate side of me wants to say something to let him know I know and how very sorry I am. But that will be breaking NC. I DON'T want to go back to the A and am not looking for a way to wiggle back in, but for goodness sake, I'm not an inhumane, unkind person. My heart is literally breaking for him right now. What should I do???????
~alwayst2

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You already know the answer to this one.
First - PRAY for him.
Second - I dont have experience with this and I will probably be guilty of collusion by expressing what MY gut instinct says and would do - so it's probably better if I dont say anything and let the VETS or others with experience in this weigh in.
PRAYERS PRAYERS PRAYERS though - work.
xo,
Michelle
OMG. I am so glad I was done with this A before this happened. I am just sick for him, though. I could almost cry for him right now. But he made a stupid error in judgment and now this. Karma? Maybe. But if I think that way, then I wonder what awaits me.
I am so impulsive, my first thought was to send him a text and let him know how sorry I am. But I'm not going to contact him. I will pray, like you suggest, Michelle. There's nothing I can do for him anyway. OMG, will this pain ever, ever go away????
Sorry, I had to post quickly but now have more time.
Sorry you are experiencing this....BUT....do nothing...AND it doesn't make you inhumane or insensitive..
Wishing you peace, ((alwayst))
Ok....I was a newbie who looked for excuses to contact my exAP, even if it was a anonymous email or text from some random number. I looked for reason and I told myself I had some. Health reason and the like...serious health reasons. So before I tell you what you know you should do but do not want to do, know that I can relate. I am not so far off that I can not relate.
You do not contact him. You do not. It is over and regardless of any circumstance and I do mean ANY circumstance, you do not contact him. Whatever it is that he is going thru, not your issue, not your business-not! I do not care if you too never promised each other the world or never had bad words. NO.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Luvin nailed it.
you just answered my question...the news, public figure...i get it...dont continue to watch how it unfolds...not good, will have you thinking of him constantly. watch cnn but avoid it as much as possible.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
The news fell on me. It was all I could do to keep a straight face. Although he is LD, he has some ties to where I live. So of course, as soon as I could, I googled it and it's all over the place he lives. Just devestating. But you are absolutely right. There is nothing I can do to help him. It might even hurt him if he heard from me. Dunno. Doesn't matter.
I can't even describe what I feel right now. It's not love or lust or any desire to be back with him. I jus wanted to let him know I care. Because I do care. Is that really so terrible?? Maybe I don't get it and should be digging deeper? This goes against my human nature not to try and provide some solace. I AM NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING, THOUGH. I PROMISE. That is why I am here. Please give me more good reasons why it is best for me to do nothing. OMG. It is taking all my strength but I have put complete faith in this board and the vets and their advice.
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