Broke NC after 6 days

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Registered: 05-16-2009
Broke NC after 6 days
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Sun, 12-20-2009 - 2:55pm

Well, after 6 days of absolutely NO contact, I had a few drinks, and contacted

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 3:31pm

I will add


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Registered: 10-25-2009
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 3:36pm

Dear Why:


I know why you are doing it--the waves of anguish and sadness that are inevitable when it hits you over and over again that you simply cannot be together.

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Registered: 05-16-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:51am

Thank you guys for your advice and insight....


So we had our talk. It was an IM talk so I have all the conversation on my phone still....


I'm unsure how I feel right now. We had a good talk and said we were going to stay friends (which we've been trying since june...its now december... ) I made him decide if 'we' were done, in the other sense. And his response was: "I have to be done. I don't want to hurt you anymore then I have. I have also been afraid that would mean we cannot be friends. Please don't cut me out of your life completely. I'm so sorry. I am NO GOOD for you. I don't want you to think I"m being cold towards you, I'm just trying to muddle through my own emotional trainwreck without f*cking you up in the process.


He also said he's having alot of other issues in his life right now, and he considers himself to be an "impossibly unhappy person" at times.


I feel HAPPY that we are going to maintain friends, because as I've said, I want this man in my life to some degree. He's a fun person that i just enjoy being around... not necessarily just having sex with, etc.


Am I being naive that we can be friends after all we've been thru, though?


KMG- I'm intersted to know more of your situation.. I will look around for your posts.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 11:00am

Am I being naive that we can be friends after all we've been thru, though?


Yes.


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Registered: 10-25-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 11:30am

Dear why:


Our stories are similar in as much as my MM told me that he was no good for anyone either.

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Registered: 05-16-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:10pm

KMG- I can't imagine how hard all of that must have been. I had no D-day and neither my H, nor his W have a clue what was going on between us. We're all friends, so its good that we've been able to keep it on the DL. I will reply more to your situation as I can.... I have a newborn, and my time on here is so limited, but right now, I feel like its the only thing keeping me from breaking down.


I want to thank you guys again for your insight on the friends thing. Today, I'm not as positive as I was yesterday. I feel SO EMPTY. I feel like I still have so many unanswered questions. I know there are no answers, so its pointless, but its bothering me already, and its only been 12 hours since we put the final cap on the A.


Like i just said above, I have a newborn little girl. Its SICK that I'm not focusing on her and enjoying her, but instead obsessing over this man who doesn't want me.


I see what you all mean about friends. I read the post "What being friends means.." Wow. I