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Sun, 03-02-2014 - 1:49pm

I'm new here and am SO thankful I found this site... I'm a MW my AP started ignoring me and went NC so I'm assuming it's over, it was an online EA he lives in a different country but met once I went to visit him for 2 weeks... I stupidly sent 2 emaila this morning and he never responds, I know I know I need to realize it's over and I've been reading A LOT of posts and they have helped... I'm going NC as of now, tomorrow will be day 1, please wish me luck on my journey of healing my H now does not know about the affair and I will not tell him to save any hurt. , this is why I am here looking for support and new friends. 

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Thu, 03-06-2014 - 6:58pm

I don't know about anyone else, but I'm having a heck of a time signing in here.

Anywhoooo, oh....I forgot that you did meet up.  It's understandable that he moved on if he is single because you were not willing to get a divorce to be with him.

Men tend to accept a situation for what it is and move on quicker than women do.

Keep up the spirit, Ms. Fabulous!

Clarity

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Fri, 03-07-2014 - 9:34am

Good Morning Clarity!

I just want to start off my saying thank you for ALL your support, you have no idea what it has done for my sanity.

My xAP is seperated but he still lives with his wife, I should have mentioned that prior...

Today marks day 5 of NC, it's a bit of a milestone for me since I've never made it past day 4. 

I'm feeling a bit down this morning it's probably due to it being day 5, I'll have a good cry and that usually makes me feel better. :)

I hope you have a great Friday...

Angel

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Fri, 03-07-2014 - 11:08am

Could be, Angel...could be that day 5. It can happen like that...feeling down.  We get past that date beyond our other NCs.

Good days...bad days, they are all a part of the process. Soon, the good days will outweigh the bad days; and eventually you'll feel free...really free.

Hope you have a great weekend.  I'm always in and out and so keep posting anytime to stay in touch. By Monday, it'll be 8 days. Okay...okay, we're suppose to keep it one day at a time...me bad. :)

((hugs))

Clarity

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Sat, 03-08-2014 - 10:16am

Good Morning!

What a change in events, so yesterday afternoon I was told that my xAP WAS NOT seeing anyone else he was just saying that to get me jealous cause he knew it would get back to me...Funny thing is it didn't make me jealous, sure I was a bit hurt but more angry than anything... It made me realize he's NOT as mature as I thought he was. 

Yesterday was a tough one, today I just feel glad its day 6 of NC and am feeling back to fabulous today GO ME!!! :)

I said to myself yesterday my xAP was the BEST thing in 'NEVER' had...

Thanks again for your support Clarity :)

Angel

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Sat, 03-08-2014 - 10:28am

You're welcome, Angel :)

Okay, it seems like you have one more avenue to close down...as in that avenue in which you are getting information about your xaffair partner. Your day was interrupted with anger due to news about him...so it is keeping you engaged, and is kinda sorta contact, even though in an indirect way.  Do what you can to shut that down.

Happy Saturday!

Clarity

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Sat, 03-08-2014 - 5:24pm

Thanks Clarity... I really never looked at it like that, the only contact we had was through email so I blocked the contacts email addy so no more getting info I don't need... Day 6 NC and I'm feeling good :) 

Enjoy your Saturday you deserve it!!!

Angel

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