C-day

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2009
C-day
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Sun, 10-25-2009 - 2:07pm

Hi all -


It's been a long time since I posted, but I've been lurking and reading. Quick recap of my story: A with boss which he ended when he was afraid I was getting too serious about him. I've had a very hard time getting over him and the A, there have been no fishing attempts on his part, and it is OVER.


My H never found out about the A - he was away at school. However, with each passing day, I found

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Registered: 10-18-2008
In reply to: cowsgirl
Sun, 10-25-2009 - 8:56pm

Hi Cowsgirl,


I haven't posted here for a long time either but I feel like I need to respond to your post.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2009
In reply to: cowsgirl
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 7:33pm
Hi Cowsgirl - I have actually been thinking about you lately and was happy to see your post. I am not sure if you still remember me, but both you and I ended our A at around the same time. I am sorry for the difficult situation that you are in now and I really don't know what advice I can offer you because I have not had a D-Day yet nor do I ever intend to have a C-day. I admire your courage to open up to your H about your A and I just want to send you a cyber show of support and hope for the best for you. I too am feeling a lot of guilt about my A, but I can never bring myself to confess it to my H. You are a strong girl - much stronger than you give yourself credit for - and you will come out of this a better and stronger person. (((hug))) Gullable.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
In reply to: cowsgirl
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 7:51pm

Hey cowsgirl :)


I really admire your courage.


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2007
In reply to: cowsgirl
Mon, 10-26-2009 - 10:46pm

Hi Cowsgirl


Firstly I must commend you on being so brave, it takes a lot of courage to do what you did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2009
In reply to: cowsgirl
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 12:55pm

Hello, Gull -


Of course I remember you and all the support you gave (and continue to give) me!


I never planned on a C-day, but I found myself physically sick and crying most of the time, so it almost had to happen. H would have figured out something was wrong, but he never suspected this. Now I'm physically sick with the pain I have caused him and wishing I could bear it for him.


I know this will all make me a better person in the end. I only pray that I am going to have the chance to be a better wife.


Thanks -


CG

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2009
In reply to: cowsgirl
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 1:03pm

Clarity,


There must be a very fine line between bravery and stupidity that I straddle a thousand times daily. There probably was very little chance that H would have found out accidentally, but I just couldn't live with myself thinking I had to lie to him about something so awful for the rest of our lives. I haven't had much time to look at the boards yet - between work and being verbally beaten up

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2009
In reply to: cowsgirl
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 1:09pm

Apple.


Thanks for giving me some hope. I love my husband and don't want him to leave me - not because I'm afraid of being alone, but because I want to be with him. My gut feeling is that he will give me another chance. It just might be a very long road until he makes that decision, and he knows it is completely his to make. I've given up my rights at this point, so if he feels he needs to leave, I will have to let him do it. I'm going to start crying just writing this, and I'm at work, so I'd better stop now. But thanks so much for your story.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2009
In reply to: cowsgirl
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 1:18pm

AWE13 -


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2009
In reply to: cowsgirl
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 6:41pm

CG,


It's funny how these boards call out to those off us who have "left" at the most opportune of times.......I have to doubt that there is such a thing as coincidence.


First, kudos to you for doing what you had to do to be true to yourself and your life....stepping out and telling your H is unimaginable for most (myself included).

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2008
In reply to: cowsgirl
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 8:18am

CG,


My H had a VERY difficult time with the fact that I waited until a year after the A ended to tell him.