Calling all newbies and lurkers
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Calling all newbies and lurkers
| Fri, 03-12-2010 - 7:45am |
Dear Enders,
Reading through the posts this morning I spotted a couple of lurkers that have come out of hiding. We would love to hear your stories and if you are not ready yet to post them, how about at least introducing yourself to the board.
For all the newbies,, I would like you to post in too. Tell us a little bit about yourself, your interests, if you are M or S, how many children you have , and how long you have been out of your A now.
TIA and ((hugs))

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Since until recently I had not posted for over six months and have been a long-time lurker, I will reintroduce myself. I am a MW over 20 years with three children. I had an A with a MM for 15 months. We were friends since childhood because of our families. We reconnected a few years ago at a funeral. At first it was just the friendship we had before but then of course it progressed. I've had three endings. The last time I made the decision to stop - that was November 10, 2009. The first couple of months there were tons of fishing attempts but then he gave up. I was doing great but
Hi! Silver Doe here. Just following orders :)
I have only been married for 2 years, no children. xMM is a coworker, also M (I think 6 years), one child. We were "together" for just over a year. See and hear each other all day every day.
Met at work, fell hard, things got much more serious than either of us anticipated (hey, we're not trying to reinvent the wheel here...).
I decided it had to end. So here I am, at just around 1 month NC (outside of work)/LC (during work).
Nice to meet/re-meet everyone :)
"Even though I'm in full-blown withdrawal and oh-so-vunerable, I do realize it's not about him anymore. It's about me, my low self-esteem issues, abandonment issues, validation from others issues...and more. This board has really helped me realize that when the fantasy of the A is over, and we're left in the dust (fog), once it starts to clear, you have to be brave enough to face the real issues the A helped you escape from."
Misty, thank you for putting how I feel into words so perfectly.
Hello to all =D.
LW,
Welcome to our community and I hope you will stick around and offer the newbies your wisdom and advice. It takes going through rings of fire to experience the pain that comes with taking such risks.
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~Iddy~
Liberty- thank you for posting that!!!! I could agree with so much of what you said.
I am MW, xap is MM and we are family friends. The A lasted 6 months, no DDAY, and I am on day 15 NC/LC.
When you talked about not spilling your stuff to your H, how that time period is going to be yours and that God has forgiven you- WOW! I needed to hear that. I have often wondered if I should tell H. I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I will not. It will do no good and my motivation would be selfish in wanting to get rid of the guilt. I am a Christian, and I know God has forgiven me. I see the A as a lesson- I can never EVER judge anyone of anything ever again. Especially other women like me.
Also, I could agree SO much with what you said about your marriage. I got to the point where I didn't want to be married to H anymore, we were at a fork in the road and he knew I meant business. He knew I couldn't stay in the marriage like it was. And he too, has CHANGED! And it's only because of God that he has changed, and that our marriage is back on the right road. My H is a wonderful man, and I have learned so much about life and myself because of this A.
Thank you again for posting. Post more!!! :)
Hazel
Good day to all.
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