Calmer now--thanks!

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Calmer now--thanks!
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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 7:48am

I received great advice as to why I shouldn't go all "Fatal Attraction" on xap. Thanks, ladies. I don't think I would have had the nerve to threaten him anyway, but it sure felt good to vent and fantasize a little about it!!! LOL.


It will work out one way or the other and I don't need his help.


I was thinking this morning about how relieved I feel not to be experiencing the confusion, guilt, push/pull, longing, heated rush and all those other unbalancing feelings I felt while in the

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Sat, 06-12-2010 - 9:03pm

Good for you!


Had you responded out of anger I doubt you would have woke up feeling the same way! It’s hard sometimes to bite your tongue and sit on your hands so they cannot type to xAP but the personal rewards are worth it. You changed your reaction by dismissing A thinking and you changed the outcome.


You are in control and you kept your power. Feels good doesn’t it! This is huge. Enjoy and revel in your success.


Much love and big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Mon, 06-14-2010 - 9:24am

The 48 Hour Rule. Wait. Wait and then wait some more. I am glad you did. Remember this the next time you get the urge. Proud of you :) The calm will come if you just wait.


Hugs,


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Mon, 06-14-2010 - 10:22am

Jane,


Your 48 rule is one of the best pieces of advice ever given on this board. With emotions raging and the ups and downs and doubts creating all kinds of turmoil inside us, just being able to sit on it for 48 hours seems to always put things back into perspective. I'm so glad we can vent here and have our EAS sisters slap us alongside the head when we need it. :)


Happy day to you.


~alwayst2

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Mon, 06-14-2010 - 8:11pm

Aww thanks... I just found that it works for me. It has taught me patience. It has taught me how to sort through my emotions without giving into the powerful pull of the addiction. They were no good for us. We know that... so we sit with that knowledge until it sinks in. And it will. Keep hanging in. You are strong. I see the support you give to others here and I know that you and I will be dancing together on the other side very soon.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/