came to realize after its over
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came to realize after its over
| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:34am |
As I read some of these posts about their XMM calling them and then days later not wanting them and being a jerk to them, makes me realize that that is what I was doing to my XMM. I tried to end it in August but we talked it over and agreed to keep talking. I knew it wasn't right but I kept going along. Then two weeks later before labor day weekend I ended it again and he blew up at me and told me I was making a mistake and would never by happy with my h. He hung up on me. I let him cool offo and called him back the next week and we started talking agian. I guess, in my heart I wasn't ready to end it. Well we talked for a couple of days (he wasn't calling me everyday like he was before I broke up with him). The next week I ended it again bc he just didn't seem as responsive as he was before Labor Day eventhough he was telling me he felt the same way. We talked really good and agreed to talk some more the next day. I said some pretty harsh things to him (I had no plans to leave my H, my child needs her daddy,etc)but I thought he took them pretty well but when I called the next day he was a complete jerk and said I was beating him up and told me I know where he stands with his wife (can't leave her now). He turned it around to make it look like I was pinning away fo him. If that makes him happy ,well be it. I told him never to call me again and hung up. The next week I called him back bc I didn't want hard feelings and he was so nice and told me he was thinking of me all weekend and I didn't respond back like I usually do. I got offo the phone and felt great. Well, that little bit sucked me back in and I called him three days later and he didn't want to talk to me. My point is a person can only take som much tugging and pulling until they just snap. Don't let your XMM keep pulling you around. Stop the pain. My XMM prevented me from pulling him anymore and ended my attempted phone calls to him. I haven't called him in 6 weeks and I know he won't call me. My husband told me once that a man can only take so much and when he doesn't want to deal with the pain he just moves on to something else to bury the pain. They can cut it off cold turkey bc I think that is how they cope. We hang on to the if's and but's and hammer ourselves for it.
