Can anyone help me with this?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Can anyone help me with this?
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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 7:16pm
OK, here's the situation. I've been posting about how much MM lies. Here's one of his lies. He tells me that he is leaving to go, take his brother, to take care of some business. He calls to tell me this at 4:30 (around the time he should pick his dd up from school). So, I wait about 20 minutes and call his brother. I asked "is MM on his way to your house?" His brother said "no". So, I ask his brother to have him call me on my cell "if" he shows up. Which I know he won't, because the whole thing is a lie.

How do I phrase this whole thing when I ask MM about the situation tomorrow. I can't say "did you get my message" because he would just say his brother forgot to give it to him. I want him to know, that I know, that he was no where close to his brothers house.

If I had time, I would have gone to his dd's school, because I know in my heart he picked her up. Or, he's seeing someone else, which is very possible.

Anyway, can anyone help me catch him in this lie?

Thanks

Secret.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 8:16pm
I hope this doesn't come across harsh, I don't mean it to be. If I were you I would drop him like a hot potato. It's not worth the aggravation and energy that you are putting in to it. If he is lying to you, confronting him about it isn't going to change that.

Complete NC is the only way to get away from him and all of his lies. Yes, I understand your need to know, but you need to do what's best for you and walk away. Let him lie to someone else. I know it seems easy for me to sit here and say this, but 6 months ago I was ending my A and I was obsessed with what XMM was doing. It was so unhealthy for me and I'm glad I realized what a waste of time and energy it was sooner than later. I didn't waste my time following him around, to get away the "need" to do that, I posted here and posted more. Eventually, the memories get tucked away and you start to feel more normal and you will wonder what the heck you were thinking. It will take too much out of you to obsess over him and what he is doing.

Good luck in whatever you do. This is just my honest opinion.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 9:46pm

Having read many of your prior posts, I think you should re-read Alifeschoice's post reply to you in this thread and FOLLOW HER ADVICE.


You deserve a LOT more from your life than what you're getting from investing your energy with xMM......


jmhoo,


cl-nre

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 10:37pm
Secret, The prior replies are good advice. I am in the process of Ending an A also. XMM lied to me also, so many lies I have lost count. I know it is hard..its been a nightmare for me..but you must CUT HIM lose. XMM lies caused me legal problems and I possibly might be facing crimnal charges. Can you spell A-N-T-I S-O-C-I-A-L P-E-R-S-O-N-A-L-I-T-Y D-I-I-S-O-R-D-E-R? Run from him fast, if you want to email me please feel free hope4meyet11@yahoo.com.

Hope

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 9:05am
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Edited 10/1/2004 6:29 pm ET ET by sally289