Can FINALLY SAY I'M MOVING ON!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2009
Can FINALLY SAY I'M MOVING ON!!!
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Tue, 04-13-2010 - 12:14pm

So it’s finally come and I am finally accepting it and I am finally mentally prepared to let go and move forward in my life.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 1:14pm

Well, LIGA, thoughts *do* lead to actions. If you keep repeating it over enough, your mind will take the ball and run with it. I know that I was also determined to make my final ending my last ending, and now 6 years later I can say it worked. ;-)


Remember, this battle is yours to win. No one else can win it for you. So dig in your heels and don't let anyone or anything sway you from this self proclaimed conviction, that IMO, is a win-win decision.


You can do this!


((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 1:53pm

So good to hear you are mentally prepared to end it now. Your chances for success are much better when you are prepared and know without a doubt that it is OVER.


Does it really matter that he's sincere? The only thing that matters is that YOU are sincere about ending it.


I haven't been posting a whole lot about my situation lately; mostly just little responses to others to keep things positive for everyone. I have felt everything that everyone else who has ended their A feels: I've felt like I'm absolutely going to cave in and contact him because I miss him so much; I've felt repulsed by the thought that I engaged in this A to begin with and I don't care to ever see him again; and I've felt

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 02-02-2010
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 2:28pm

Hi-

We've all fallen off the wagon honey... so don't be too hard on yourself. We are glad to have you back and committed to NC. And yes, you are right, you have to be ready to end it otherwise it won't stick. After several attempts to end my A, this last time has stuck for 76 days now because I was ready. I had had enough. I was miserable more than I was happy and I was tired of it. It gave me the strength to walk away. And the first week or so was so empowering... and then it got rocky for awhile... and now it seems to be leveling out. I know that I can do this. And I know that as more time passes, it will continue to get easier. Big hugs to you today for ending your A. Now, it's time to focus on you.

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/