Can I come back?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2006
Can I come back?
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Tue, 02-08-2011 - 6:53am

I am ashamed and embarrassed to be coming back to the board asking permission to be part of this community again.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 12:12pm

Hugs to you

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 3:05pm

Mom, I really appreciated this posting on Narcissism.

Ill come back and respond more thoughtfully WIWWM -

Welcome Back!!!!

Dont worry - or beat up on yourself - It wasn't your time before.

NOW is all you HAVE,

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 09-28-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 3:45pm

WELCOME BACK!!

Please stay and post as much as you need to ...

and just a warning - if * you're* wasting energy trying to diagnose ex-AP, remember that we too were 'unavailable' cake-eaters for the most part, playing a performance of the all-loving partner to get the ego strokes we needed ... lying to those we most loved and who depended on us, and/or helping someone WE said we loved to become the worst of themselves to meet our needs.

Gosh, what does that make us?

Reflect on the self ... it is the only one you/we need to figure out.

Everything else is just a distraction and deflection from taking personal accountability for our own hurt.

WE all knew what we were doing was wrong, hurtful and deceptive ... we did it anyways.

Much care,

TU.

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 3:52pm
transcended.us wrote:

WELCOME BACK!!

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 3:57pm
Of course you are welcome back...always are welcome back. I am happy you are back and it sounds like you have some new insight and are really done!! This is not easy to do...but you can only keep trying, let's make it stick this time. We are here with you and welcome you back....lots of luv....you can do this, it seems like you can not, but if I can, you can! I know this. Post away....post, post, post, next thing you know, weeks will pass, then months, then a year!! And you will feel better by the day, always minor setbacks and rough days, but all and all, peace takes over and you really breath again! Much hugs to you
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 4:00pm

I got an awesome post on serial cheaters that I have posted several times, good stuff! really good, may be the same as what you got from always?

Always? if it is not, let me know and I will dig it up...it helped me immensely...I stopped taking things so personally

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 4:37pm

I think it was TU who posted the narcassist article. I didn't post anything like that, that I can recall.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 09-28-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 4:40pm
Not me (: I think we all behaved like narcassists in the affair.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2006
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 5:21pm

I totally agree and I own my part in this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2006
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 5:23pm

Ooops someone did.