Can I take a poll? Curious....
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Can I take a poll? Curious....
| Mon, 04-19-2010 - 7:46pm |
Hey ladies, since I am new and although have read A LOT of posts,
| Mon, 04-19-2010 - 7:46pm |
Hey ladies, since I am new and although have read A LOT of posts,
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Thanks everyone, appreciate your responses. Gives me insight as to where I fit in here. Each of us share such different experiences, yet are so alike in our struggle and pain, I guess we all fit because we are here for the same purpose regardless of our past experiences. Thank you all for the words of advice as well and to those who are still not "totally" FREE, I appreciate you sharing that, as I feel like I am failing sometimes even with NC.
Can someone explain what MAS and BSS mean? Haven't figured out all the acronyms yet and have seen them on here a lot.
Have a strong tomorrow
MAS - My Affair Support
BSS - Betrayed Spouses Support
A couple of the other boards on here :)
I love polls! You can learn so much!
1. What day are you on of NC? (Roughly 200 - nearly 7 months).
2. Did you have a Dday? (Thank GOD, no. He's S, so he wouldn't have a D-Day).
3. Who initiated NC? (it was xAP)
4. Was NC all of a sudden with no explanation or did one of you say it is over? (The A was deteriorating for the prior 6 months, and it just picked up speed in the last 2. I think he met someone, but he would never tell me that. He just told me he "can't do this anymore." Ironically, I realized I couldn't either.)
5. Is it easier to heal YOURSELF and work on M with a Dday? (My opinion is no. My DH would have never recovered if he found out, esp since I had been with xAP before we got married (and DH had found out about that and told me if he ever caught me again, he would leave, no questions asked. Idiot that I am, I started up again after we got married. STUPID).
6. How long was your A? (8 years, on and off - the longest NC period we ever had was 7 months. I'm nearly at that stage now, so moving beyond it is HUGE for me).
7. Do you have to see your xAP on a regular basis? (Thankfully, no. Early on in our A, when we went NC, we saw each other almost daily and you can see how that worked out).
8. Do you find yourself still checking for txt or an email? (I blocked him from my personal email account. Can't block him from my phone, so everytime I have a "missed call" or voicemail, the thought crosses my mind. I made the HUGE mistake of "googling" him a couple of weeks ago and discovered he had a FB page that I never knew about. Thankfully, I don't have a FB account, so I couldn't look at his status. I think I would drop dead in front of the computer if I had to read "in a relationship". After that unnecessary pain, I vowed I would never, ever, look him up again).
9. If there is only ONE piece of advice you would give regarding this journey...what would it be (aside from never starting one to begin with... :)(My advice would be to realize that you CAN live without this person and that no matter how much you thought you were in love, the relationship, by its very nature, was completely toxic. I never realized that until 7 months ago, and coming to that painful realization has helped me start to put it all behind me).
1. What day are you on of NC? (Day 37 - seems like so much more, tho)
2. Did you have a Dday? (Nope, not yet anyway)
3. Who initiated NC? (I guess I did more or less, I mostly said we needed to end it and he is the one who went full blown NC by unfriending me on FB)
4. Was NC all of a sudden with no explanation or did one of you say it is over? (we talked for two hours before NC and came to the mutual agreement)
5. Is it easier to heal YOURSELF and work on M with a Dday? (still trying to figure this one out...)
6. How long was your A? (4 1/2 months)
7. Do you have to see your xAP on a regular basis? (Have to?
I'm in..
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