Can't believe it's over :(
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Can't believe it's over :(
| Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:16am |
Found out tonight MM wants to "move on". Says he needs to pay more attention to his family. We've worked together for 3 years been in A for last 1 1/2 years. He is changing his schedule which means we will very rarely if ever work the same shifts. The worst part is he didn't even have the nerve to tell me himself-i found out through the rumour mill. I asked him about it and he confessed and apologized. He said he knew he should have told me himself but could never find the right time. He was very sincere and I'm not mad about that part of it anymore. I'm just very dissapointed that I won't see him at work. We were just "having fun" but we were both getting emotionally involved. It's really going to suck at work without him there. We had a long talk about this tonight and I told him that I really care about him and he needs to do what is best for him and his family right now. I've been telling him for a while that he needs to decrease his stress level etc. and his new hours will give him an extra day off a week. He said he didn't want to end it this way but it is time to move on......I told my good friend about everything that happened(she has been a great listener from the start of A-she works with us) and she thinks this is a good thing. She thinks he is afraid of his feelings and that is why he is putting the distance b/w us. One of us had to do it-I'm just not ready for this to be over. I knew it wouldn't last forever. I'm going to miss him so much. I have so many conflicting emotions right now. Sadness, relief, hope. Sad that it is over. Relief that it didn't turn ugly. I hope he can be happier and less stressed in his M and family life(which is what started our A in the first place). We still have another month working together before the changes take place and that is going to be very weird. I don't know how I'm going to act around him now. I truly care about him as a person and I want him to be happy and he feels the same. We rarely have contact outside work so if I don't see him at work he is basically not in my life! This is going to take so much adjusting. I can't believe this is happening. I feel so abandoned. It is a very different situation for me to have someone back away from me because they care too much instead of it being loss of interest. I don't know....I have so much to sort out. Thanks for listening.

Well, you found the right board to come to! We've all been through this at one stage or another. Part of loving someone is knowing when to let go. It's time to let him go. You both have issues in your individual lives to work on and he realizes that. I respect him for being able to tell you he has to put his family and marriage first.
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