Can't get through this! Help!

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Registered: 02-25-2004
Can't get through this! Help!
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 2:26pm
So, I broke NC with OM. Only made it 2 days this time. He says he misses me so much, and will marry me as soon as I leave my H. I know if I actually did that, I might regret it months from now. But, I can't stand the thought of never seeing OM again. It's only been 6 days since I saw him, and I miss him so much. I don't know how to re-commit to my H, and try to make this work when all of my love and energy is with OM. I don't do anything but cry. I want to be with him so badly. I really don't know how to get through this. The doctor actually put me on Zoloft, but I don't think that will mend a broken heart.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 02-28-2004 - 3:33pm
HI 123

Perhaps dealing with the facts rather then the fantasy will help you, ONLY 2.5 percent of Marriages between affair partiners last long term, less then 5 percent last one year.

I don't know your history but I do know that once you and the OM get together in the real world rather then the sneaky thrill seeking affair fantasy world a lot of what you think you have will vanish and you will be left with the personal baggage that allowed to get into an affair and a man that has no problem screwing other mens wifes.

As they say nothing kills an affair faster then being together 24/7.

Good luck

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 02-28-2004 - 3:49pm
I like how you think girl. Time spent with XOM I spent in nice hotel rooms, nice restaurants, vacations....what about the day after day mundane life that we come to know in marriage? Would I have found his lazy butt that exciting? I got to talk to his ex wife and as far as husbands go he was a nightmare.

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 02-28-2004 - 6:57pm
Sometimes I think there wifes let them cheat hopeing they will leave.